Dating Advice.. (omg so lame, I know) - Page 16

Originally Posted by nonissue

There is absolutely no logical reason for you to impose this expiry date. Why make sweeping generalizations? It just sounds so trite and immature.

Originally Posted by The Snob

- lack of a spine/not assertive (I see these types all the time... the nervous titters, the inability to ever have a reaction to one of your actions, the overeagerness to please even at his/her own expense)

Originally Posted by chessman305

I find this interesting. Can you explain how you link non-assertiveness and overeagerness to please together?

Originally Posted by The Snob

word--and unattractive in either sex.

Originally Posted by The Snob

So on a note unrelated to my salt and pepper lovah:

Sitting here, eating bonbons, waiting for the new episode of Mad Men to air... and I receive a call from a guy I went on a first date with SIX NIGHTS AGO! Admittedly, I was sure he would eventually call but was not expecting him to wait this long. Reaction when I saw the call display: laughter. Of course I let it go to voicemail.

Who is giving you this advice boys? Six days??? At least he called vs. email or text, so I guess he has at least some cajones. However, this is not the start of a beautiful relationship. This is the start of bitterness and resentment if she actually really liked you (and lots of "game" playing) OR in my case, unintentional humour if she liked you and would have given you a fighting chance but then you fucked it up with this shit. And believe me, plenty of wonderful relationships have developed from the girl initially being on-the-fence about a guy (actually, in my case, I thought he was a cool guy until this)... but through his will and determination, TRIUMPH! (Determination here is not to be confused with being a spineless loser/stalker).

I listened to the voicemail. "Hey, it's Blahblah. How was your weekend? Wondering if you have some free time next weekend or week. Give me a call back!"

Naw son, naw; you missed the boat! (Admittedly, I do kind of want to call him back to deadpan, "Seriously? Six days? Seriously?")

Anyway, had he called me like in 3 days, I would have definitely answered and had a pleasant little chit chat on the phone with him and set up another date. Six days is just not the way to approach a woman you want to have the sex with even if all you want is the sex.. unless she is a total lame-o.

So thoughts guys? Are people suggesting six days? What is your standard operating procedure post first-date?




Well, that ain't happening. I plan on running for office one day. hahaha no, not really.

Originally Posted by unjung

There once was a girl from New York,
No man in the city whom would court,
She tried Match.com,
But her rules served her wrong,
So she turned to Craigslist for sport!

Originally Posted by ssnyc

Wasn't there a book/movie about this? 'He's just not that into you'

Originally Posted by superego

Uhh, I'll assume you were playing around, because that's kind of a bullshit proof (if only because using induction in the opposite direction negates your result).

You're allowed to call or not call whomever you want, I just think CREATING additional obstacles for meeting someone is silly when there are already plenty.

My first thought after reading this was of a girl I met at a Halloween party years ago. We met, hit it off and I asked her to my college formal. We went together, had an amazing time with some great conversation and she happened to be beautiful to boot. The formal was on a Friday and I finally called her again the following Thursday evening because I'd planned to wait a day or two and then got busy and didn't have a chance to call until then. When she realized it was me, she mentioned how she'd been worried that I wouldn't call, but also that she was glad I did.

We spoke for a bit and towards the end, I asked her out again for that weekend and she agreed. By your logic, she could have and maybe should have simply not answered, ranted to her friends about what an asshole player I was and not given me any serious consideration thereafter. As it turns out, she didn't do that though, we dated for quite a while and ended up being each others' "first love". I'm personally pretty glad she didn't make such an arbitrary decision.