Dating and youth

Are you going to different schools? What will the distance be? Do either of you have a desire for random hookups? Are your future goals aligned? People are going to give you shit on here for even thinking about it and not tapping as much ass as possible, but it's really up to the two of you. If you let it end and expect destiny to bring you back together, I wouldn't get my hopes up. Lots of people have married their high-school sweethearts and lived happily ever after. It's probably less common these days, but if you've really got a good thing going and the logistics work for you, who's to judge? If you've been going strong for 4 years and are both as realistic as you say, that's not a bad sign. Btw, if you two are sure, what's making you pick 25 as the age to get married? Money? There are some that will say you don't know what you want because you've been dating the same girl since you were 16 and don't have any other experiences, and that it's a recipe for disaster, but I don't necessarily agree. Maybe it's unlikely for someone to find their best match when they are that young, but if the person they're with makes them happy, I think it's self-defeating to think that maybe if they held out a few more years they'd find someone that makes them more happy. There's no way of knowing. If you feel like you'd be settling or compromising in any way though, you need to cut and run or else you'll always be wondering, and you'll be pissed you didn't bang as many chicks as possible in college.

That's up to you. Are you good at chatting up the ladies? It's different when you're flying solo. Unless you're in college, meeting new girls is a bit more of a struggle than you might imagine. At the same time, college is a unique experience where you can pull more tail than any time before or after in your life. You're only used to one person. If you get married without playing the field, eventually you'll resent it. Just remember that if you guys do decide to split, she could very well have a hookup or a new guy before you leave the starting gate.

This thread has immediately grabbed my attention.

i met my wife at 15. we hooked up on and off over the years before getting together for good at 21. kinda knew we'd wind up together but glad i did some fucking around between.

I'd say go with your heart / gut / feelings on this one. If you are undoubtedly head-over-heels in love, then I guess there's no point in trying out anyone else. BUT, if you feel like you have any inkling of seeing what else is out there, then you guys should split now and then see if you come back to each other. You may find after a short while that you're not into seeing anyone else.

i was in this exact situation. i started dating my ex when i was 15. we broke up when i was 21 because i knew id never be able to marry her with out having been single and just doing my own thing. shes an amazing girl but i had to do it for me. maybe one day in the future well get back, maybe not. noone can make the decision or really give you any advice. its all up to you.

i 'met' my wife when i was fourteenish...we didn't start dating until i was a freshman in college.

long distance sucks balls, we date 4+ years before we got married, atleast half was long distance. i could have dated other chicks, and gotten random meaningless ass... but i really didn't want to. I am happy i stayed with the same girl, the one i knew i loved all along.

we got married.

if its love, and the two of you know it take it at the pace that feels best. if that means being in the same place, or it means being long distance for a while you gotta figure that out.

if you aren't counting marriage out get pre-marital counseling now... most people think you have to be engaged, but basically a marriage/family counselor is just someone to help a mediator if you will, and if you're serious the conversations you'll have are invaluable down the road.

my advice would think that breaking up now would most likely lead to you ultimately not getting together later.


good luck with whatever you decide

robbie

I dated the same guy all through college. If we'd been older we might have gotten married. But that didn't happen - we ended up going in two different directions and I we're both the happier for it. I don't regret not fucking around in college, but I recognize it's easy to have no regrets as I'm not stuck in an unhappy marriage with him . . . Honestly, only you know what you feel. If you both are happy with each other now, then I say be happy with each other now. Even if in a couple of years you guys decide maybe you were too young and want to have a different type of freedom, you can certainly screw around then. Are you asking this because you are starting to feel like you should be fucking around, or because others are suggesting to you that you should feel that way? People seem to be quite skeptical of young love, and I don't know if that's always warranted.

hook up with random ass.

Having future planning is a good thing. Maybe if both of you have the same vision, that could be the thing which stick you guys together. Don't be in a rush...

I would not marry her if you guys have not boned other people.

Been in the same boat, and broke up with her because there's just no way to marry a girl without trying others first. Glad I did, because you'll probably find somebody better.

Is five years a long time for a 20 y/o? Damn straight it is. Think about it. That length of time represents 25% of your current entire time alive. And until you hit your late 20s, I'm of the opinion that personal change/growth/whatever you want to call it, happens far faster in your younger years. The difference between say, a 15 y/o and 20 y/o, or 20 y/o and 27 y/o is far, far greater than the difference between being 40 vs. 45 or 45 vs. 55.

Photos of her please.