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Women crying in public - what to do?

post #1 of 45
9/7/09 at 5:39am
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Perhaps an odd question... OK it's an odd one.

Sitting on the train, leisurely browsing through the SF website, when on the seat behind me I hear a young woman start to cry. Not one of those uncontrollable wails, more a soft sob.

This went on for about 30 seconds or so, when I realised that the three or four other people in the carriage were too self-involved to notice, or too worried to say anything. I turned around, and said to her "Are you OK?", and got a teary eyed nod in return, to which I half smiled and turned back around.

Question - what's the best thing to do?
Leave her alone?
Ask the quick question and leave her alone?
Ask if this means she's newly single, and make a move?
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post #2 of 45
9/7/09 at 6:14am
I think that was fine. You showed compassion, but didn't make her feel obligated to reply.
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post #3 of 45
9/7/09 at 6:24am
Give her a hug! All woman who are crying want a hug!!!

So my wife tells me anyways...
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post #4 of 45
9/7/09 at 9:13am
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Originally Posted by Risque View Post
Question - what's the best thing to do?
Leave her alone?
Ask the quick question and leave her alone?
Ask if this means she's newly single, and make a move?

Wow.

Offer her your handkerchief, and your pocket square if need be?
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post #5 of 45
9/7/09 at 9:28am
Show off sock garters. Win!! If the situation presented itself, you could say, "do you want to talk about it?"
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post #6 of 45
9/7/09 at 10:11am
that's about all you can do. I carry a clean, not expensive handkerchief and have had the opportunity to offer it to a crying woman a few times. you don't get them back.
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post #7 of 45
9/7/09 at 11:18am
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Originally Posted by globetrotter View Post
that's about all you can do. I carry a clean, not expensive handkerchief and have had the opportunity to offer it to a crying woman a few times. you don't get them back.
Perhaps combine strategies and have your name and number printed on them?
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post #8 of 45
9/7/09 at 11:38am
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Originally Posted by stylesmurf View Post
Show off sock garters. Win!! If the situation presented itself, you could say, "do you want to talk about it?"
Seems like a good idea in theory, but if she says that yes, she does want to talk, then she goes into the spiel about whats wrong with her. Could be something trivial as her cat died, or could be something horrible, so proceed with caution. Actually I think this question has lead to the downfall of many a men
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post #9 of 45
9/7/09 at 12:52pm
Ask her if you can join her for a crying session. Works best if you dress like those freaks that think they are vampires or that listen to that emo crap all the time.
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post #10 of 45
9/7/09 at 1:00pm
Keep walking?

Being a nice guy always leads to failure, I'd prefer to just stay away unless it was someone I know well.
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post #11 of 45
9/7/09 at 1:07pm
Nothing wrong if asking if everything is ok. Getting her a tissue or better the handkerchief idea is best. She'll give a signal if she wants to talk about it, otherwise leave her alone. I wouldn't randomly hug her. Unless she was #888 or something....
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post #12 of 45
9/7/09 at 1:15pm
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Originally Posted by intent View Post
Perhaps combine strategies and have your name and number printed on them?

rather loose a $1 handkerchief than get a very expensive divorse
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post #13 of 45
9/7/09 at 2:09pm
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Keep walking?

Being a nice guy always leads to failure, I'd prefer to just stay away unless it was someone I know well.



C'est la vie
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post #14 of 45
9/7/09 at 2:17pm
you did just about right, maybe a tissue paper if you have it with you (or cheap pocket square ). You can ask further if she wants to talk, should be able to tell in her eye.
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post #15 of 45
9/7/09 at 2:29pm
I think what you did was fine. Asking her if she "wants to talk about it" is probably probing a little too much.
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Keep walking? Being a nice guy always leads to failure, I'd prefer to just stay away unless it was someone I know well.
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