Originally Posted by countdemoney
Several sstudies back up the idea that more women file, with women initiating from 65% to 90% depending on sources.
In your experience, were any of the male initiated filings the result of clear cut behaviour by the women? Or was it about even?
By this I mean that in all the instances in my peer group where I have direct knowledge, the woman committed infidelity in the relationship and then told the man about it, in part to either initiate the divorce on his side or ensure that he would see it through when she asked for it.
What many forget, including various "social science" studies (i.e., non-legal studies), is that in many jurisdictions outside of the Southeast US, fault is no longer a requirement nor a consideration for a divorce. It doesn't matter who "caused" the divorce, because it is simply about finances. There is no benefit or detriment to "filing first," so it is largely an irrelevant statistic.
As to the notion that the woman starts the process more often, I hear an equal number of guys saying they
filed (the husbands) after they
(the husbands) cheated because their girlfriends are better cooks and women saying they
(the wives) filed because their husbands cheated because their girlfriends are better cooks. In other words, who knows and who cares if the clothes weren't washed or he had a drinking problem or she is bad in bed or he has pimples on his ass.
Plenty of abusive dirt bags still get 50% of the property and a reasonable support obligation and plenty of sympathetic, attractive, and friendly wives still end up getting . . . 50% of the property and a reasonable support award. Custody of the children still leans heavily towards mothers for a variety of reasons.