Originally Posted by Stu
Your first problem is that you are ascribing logic and reason to a woman.
"Receptionist: How do you write women so well?
Melvin Udall: I think of a man. Then I take away reason and accountability."
Seriously, though, I think Jay's on point. But whatever you do, don't deliver an ultimatum unless you're 100% sure you can follow through with it when she refuses, because she will probably refuse. Personally, I refuse any ultimatum on principle alone, even without vested interests to protect. In any case, if you give her an ultimatum and she refuses (or agrees, but then breaks it), you have *got* to be ready to walk away or you will be her doormat for as long as she decides to keep you around.