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In the room while giving birth

post #1 of 21
8/7/09 at 1:24am
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Has anyone here been in the room while their wife or girlfriend has given birth? If so, what do you say to them to help them through the process. I know they say stay encouraging, but am I just supposed to say "Good Job" and "I'm proud of you"??
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post #2 of 21
8/7/09 at 1:27am
Something along the lines of, "If this baby ain't white, I'm so gonna say, 'I told you so'."
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post #3 of 21
8/7/09 at 2:05am
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Originally Posted by Slopho View Post
Has anyone here been in the room while their wife or girlfriend has given birth? If so, what do you say to them to help them through the process. I know they say stay encouraging, but am I just supposed to say "Good Job" and "I'm proud of you"??

I have no kids, and the closest I've come to nailing a preggo chick was one two days after she aborted, but I assume the right words and behaviour will come automatically. Anyway, will she care? Hold her hand and watch the vag do amazing magic tricks.
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post #4 of 21
8/7/09 at 2:14am
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post #5 of 21
8/7/09 at 2:25am
I have a story about this, but I dunno if I should post it.
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post #6 of 21
8/7/09 at 2:31am
I read this in an article today: Nor would many men today be as sympathetic to their wives during childbirth as the Huichol Indian fathers of Mexico who tied strings to their testicles so the mothers could pull on them during labour to share the pain. source: http://www.smh.com.au/world/science/...1.html?page=-1
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post #7 of 21
8/7/09 at 6:01am
I am not sure what you should say, basically you are there to comfort your wife and to help take care of her and the baby. you are the one who is lucid, so any parts of a birth plan that require some thought and effort should fall to you. you run the errands that come up - need more drugs, need a towel, need to clean up something, etc.

anyway, good luck.
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post #8 of 21
8/7/09 at 6:22am
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I have a story about this, but I dunno if I should post it.

Yes?
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post #9 of 21
8/7/09 at 9:14am
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I have a story about this, but I dunno if I should post it.

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Yes?

Yes! Yes!

Yes! Yes!
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post #10 of 21
8/7/09 at 9:22am
No, never have been in that situation. But, I think you would just be supportive to her, help her concentrate on her breathing and be there to share in the experience. I'd think saying you are doing great and I love you would be welcomed. Good luck to you and your gf/ wife when the time comes.
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post #11 of 21
8/7/09 at 9:45am
I've been in the room while other people's wives and girlfriends have give birth. Just about some of the most unenjoyable times in my life. Anyway, your role is just to be there for her. There's not a whole lot you do other than show your support and love(?) with your presence. Maybe encourage her to push.
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post #12 of 21
8/7/09 at 10:05am
I was in awe and speechless for the births of both of my sons.
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post #13 of 21
8/7/09 at 10:11am
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I am not sure what you should say, basically you are there to comfort your wife and to help take care of her and the baby. you are the one who is lucid, so any parts of a birth plan that require some thought and effort should fall to you. you run the errands that come up - need more drugs, need a towel, need to clean up something, etc.

anyway, good luck.

+1. I've been there twice now, and basically it involves a lot of handholding, a lot of telling your wife that you love her, and a lot of reassurance.

Holding her up, helping your wife to walk around, and giving back rubs and massages while she's suffering through the final stages of labour will probably be very much appreciated, too.
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post #14 of 21
8/7/09 at 10:49am
It probably wouldn't hurt to mention how amazed you are and how much respect you have for her, given what she will be going through.
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post #15 of 21
8/7/09 at 11:00am
I've been there for 2 c-sections. The first time it happened very suddenly so I spent all of the time holding my wife's hand and reassuring her that everything was ok. The anesthesiologist had to nudge me to let me know when the baby was out. The second time was scheduled so there was a lot less drama. I was still busy reassuring my wife that everything was ok but I was a little more aware of the other things that were going on in the room.

I don't have any tips on how to help your wife get through labor. My wife never went through it for either child.
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