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post #73261 of 98401
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Originally Posted by reedobandito View Post

If I were to go right now, this would likely be the case. But that's why I really need to find a direction in this next year.

Thanks for the advice guys, will do some deep mental contemplation on the matter

i normally get bothered by gross off-topic posting but since this is actually important to your life i'll throw in my opinion.
i'm in a similar situation, graduating in may with a liberal arts degree. my first semester of school, i originally applied for and got accepted to business school (undergrad) for lack of having anything better in mind but was already skeptical about actually liking it. i took one course and decided it wasn't for me. i could have probably gotten into any undergrad college at my university (except specialized ones that would need a good portfolio). had been pressured for a long time to do engineering due to my really good history in maths and the many well paying jobs that are available to engineers. instead, i landed in liberal arts. i chose it because it had the subjects that interested me the most. i can honestly say that it was one of the best decisions of my life. i value everything i learned doing that much more than anything i would have found elsewhere (some more than others though). i have other friends that did engineering and hated it, fortunately dropping it before committing.

now that i'm going to be done soon, i'm not sure what i want for my career either. but, two things differ between us that i suggest you take into consideration: i'm not moving home - i'm moving to where i want to live, and i'm not taking a year off, i'm going to be done with school indefinitely. on the former point i gather you're moving in with your family to save money. i can understand that, but you should explore other options before committing to it. if you don't want to be there, you don't really have to be. on the latter point i still have lots of interest in going to graduate school, but i don't know what i would want to go for, and i'm not about to pay a lot of money for an education in something i don't like so i can end up working at a job i don't like. yeah, i probably will have some difficulty finding a decent job, and it will almost definitely pay less than had i majored in a subject known for its job prospects after graduation. but none of this bothers me that much. beyond offering us a certain degree of comfortability (and this doesn't require a ton of it), simply having more money doesn't really make us happy. many people put a much greater importance on it than they will admit (even to themselves). instead it plays/reinforces our association between consumption and satisfaction and that gives us the impression of happiness that they probably don't have. notice how people subscribe to this mindset never seem to have enough money even though sometimes they're ludicrously rich?

i don't have a problem with people going to engineering school, business school, med school, law school, etc. i have a problem when people do it for the wrong reasons (i.e. when they're not really interested in the subject). i'll just add that our choosing of careers like this isn't necessarily based solely on money/jobs. there's another aspect of prestige, (falsely) perceived lifestyle, and longheld aspirations that draw us to these things. if i recall correctly reedo and mikey, you've both had your post-grad plans in mind for a long time. unless i'm mistaken on that, you're not the same person you were when you originally were making those plans. you can't expect the freshman, sophomore, or high schooler to really know what he wants to do with his life. at least for me, the knowledge i gained as an undergrad has taught me a lot about myself in this sense.

admittedly, i was somewhat privileged in the costs of my college education. i know that for those taking out loans it can be difficult to specialize in something you know will lead to prolonged debt compared to other choices. i won't get into them all, but i have many more opinions about problems of higher education in the u.s.... for this one i'll only say that complete reform of the funding/financial/tuition matters at american universities seems like something that really needs to be more actively approached.
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Why isn't there an ignore button on the mobile site. ffffuuuu.gif
post #73263 of 98401
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Why isn't there an ignore button on the mobile site. ffffuuuu.gif
And why isn't there a Subscribe to this Thread button, too?
post #73264 of 98401
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Originally Posted by Nil View Post

Aye, I do. 46 at the bare minimum in sneakers.

jsyk saw a 46 in white cp lows on schwittenberg. And not sneakers but tbs has the creepers in a 46 too.
post #73265 of 98401
For the people that say having / earning money doesn't make you happy, tell me that when you taste poverty

Im talking about growing up in front of a swamp, in between two potato farms and eating weetbix for dinner five nights a week
post #73266 of 98401
I think people are saying that there's a point where more money won't make you happy. There was an article somewhere about this a few month back where they found that happiness peaked at something like $70,000/year.
post #73267 of 98401
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Originally Posted by Razele View Post

For the people that say having / earning money doesn't make you happy, tell me that when you taste poverty

Im talking about growing up in front of a swamp, in between two potato farms and eating weetbix for dinner five nights a week

There's a big difference between saying money isn't important and saying that sacrificing your happiness for more disposable income isn't worthwhile.
post #73268 of 98401
Having / earning money will make you happy if it makes you happy. Easy. Poverty has little to do with it. Lots of poor people who make money are still very unhappy.

This is coming from a first generation immigrant growing up with 5 people in a 1br apt for 5 years and a very low income trailer park up until high school. Try white rice and canned sardines for most of your meals too.

It's not fair to say something like that, that just because you're "poor" means that money will make you happy. Most of my friends/family that I still have contact with who make money now don't find happiness in the sole fact of having money; it's in the fact that they've made their parents proud, able to give their loved ones a comfortable life, etc. It's complicated, man

edit: just to clarify, I'm trying to say what brad said. I'm not talking about money = food on the table, I'm talking money = more luxury
post #73269 of 98401
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Originally Posted by reedobandito View Post

will do some deep mental contemplation on the matter
I don't recommend deep metal contemplation. I recommend going out and doing something, a lot of things. It's the only way you'll discover what you truly enjoy doing.
post #73270 of 98401
^Yes

Find an easy job that will keep you afloat (i think everyone should work in a restaurant at least for a bit in their life, so they know what TIPPING MEANS), spend the rest of your time volunteering/getting your foot into things that you think you would like doing. For me it was urban agro/organic farming
post #73271 of 98401

it's easy to say that you want to do what makes you happy now, but will you still be happy 10 years later with less prospects?  who knows, but something to think about

 

the wisest thing anyone told me when I graduated college was that, when choosing your options, don't go for something that will close a lot of doors.  

post #73272 of 98401
This reminds me of recent financial troubles and how ridiculous I felt that I was wearing at a grocery store in a $1500 jacket, contemplating if I could afford peanut butter.
post #73273 of 98401
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Originally Posted by LA Guy View Post

That said, I also know hedge fund managers that love life. It's like every day they get up with a very complex problem to solve, and they get to "win", and they love the game. To the man, they are adrenaline junkies. It's not settling for a big paycheck for them. It's a game with a lot of money on the table. That's not me, but I can respect that.

I know some people in finance, including some family members. I don't know anyone who really likes it, although there are probably good days from time to time. They make mountains of money but it sounds like a horrific grind that stunts your personal life. One guy in particular has started to behave like he has Aspergers.

On the other hand, I know one guy who became rich in finance and got out young and now does whatever he wants all the time. I would be okay with that.
post #73274 of 98401
One other thing to keep in mind, something that I think a lot of people lose sight of, is that a job can be just a job. I enjoy my job, but it's really just a means to do other things that I enjoy in life.
post #73275 of 98401
Taking a year off to think things through, get my applications right proper, and swing dance a bunch. imo it is a good idea. Although seeing people my age who are starting careers doing things I'd probably enjoy doing makes me feel a bit jealous.

got accepted to an ma philosophy program this week tho aww yeah
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