Originally Posted by Milhouse
Be prepared for things like inevitably draining every cash account available and maxing out the credit cards on harebrained schemes cooked up during a manic phase that no one could talk her out of, suicide attempts, threats, lies, disappearances, etc. I'm not saying every person with bipolar will do these things, but I have seen these things happen. A coworker had a relative disappear once. After a month or two went by, we all kind of assumed he was dead. It was really a horrible time. What can you do to comfort someone when a relative disappears and is likely dead? Well, after a while, the relative turned up alive and homeless across the country. Police picked him up for something, realized he was ill, and took him to the psych ward. Eventually they unwrapped it all and found out who he was and got in touch with my coworker. Bipolar. A girl I dated a few times waited until right when I was thinking I was going to get some for the first time from her to tell me she was bipolar. She also explained the reality of her life. Lost her (good) job, declared bankruptcy, etc. In and out of the hospital after a few suicide attempts, but had been doing well for a few years with careful treatment and monitoring, etc. Had to be on disability since she couldn't support herself for long. I had my suspicions that something wasn't right from the start, but had no idea the depth of it. She was good at hiding most of it initially, but she didn't want to get seriously involved with anyone until they knew what they were getting into. The other side of the coin, is that you start to realize that a lot of these folks would be a lot better off if they had a social support network that really cared for them and watched them. But, the reality is that it is a lot of work. If you end up the only person in the support network, it can really wear you down fast. Not to mention if things don't work out and you want to break up with this girl. . . suicidal pleas are not out of the question.
Thanks Milhouse, I always appreciate your advice in this and other of my threads. I'm going to operate on the assumption that she's just mildly depressed currently until I see otherwise. She said she talked to the psychiatrist for like 15 minutes one time, and the outcome was a suggestion of possible bi-polar tendencies. It didn't sound like a serious diagnosis. She says she still only takes the anti-depressants because they simply increase her happiness without much effort. Can't say I wouldn't' do the same were I in her situation
She also got very irritable when she tried going cold turkey at one point, which makes sense since I don't think you're supposed to quit them all of a sudden. We're going to a romantic area tonight for our first real dinner, I figure i'll make a move. she's always been really touchy and affectionate, so I can only assume she wants the same thing. Otherwise, if I get a fork in my eye, I'll know not to do that again