If your friend was recently laid off how would you go about including him in regular activities or nights out without making him feel like a charity case?
A good friend of mine was recently laid off, and from the instant it happened his demeanor fell. Everyone within my circle has done all we can to include him without making him feel as though he is putting us out, because he's not; we want him around. If that means buying him and his girlfriend tickets and drinks we feel it's well worth it to have them there. Problem is, he's no longer feelin' it, and is somehow convinced he's become a charity case.
Clearly, there is no right or wrong answer in this. But I am interested in how everyone here deals with this situation. Here are some things my circle and I have done:
1. BBQ- It's cheap! It only takes a few bucks to bring everyone to the table, and who knew they were bringing so much beer! Best of all, no one feels like a charity case.
2. Bonfire- No matter how old you get a bonfire is always fun (granted, now I have a permit). Where I am we opt for the beach, but I'm sure this can take place anywhere... campsite, sandpit, etc. Whatever your preference, a "Firestart" log, some beer or liquor, and you're golden.
3. City events! This is a great thing for not only my group due to a friends unemployment, but has opened my eyes to all my city has to offer! Honestly, I had no idea! I am absolutely loving the art festivals. And! Travel 15 minutes south and I get Hemp Fest!.. I get to be 18 again without worry of prosecution!
That's what I've got. What are all of you doing to keep your friends in the circle without hurting their ego? I'd love to hear it!
A good friend of mine was recently laid off, and from the instant it happened his demeanor fell. Everyone within my circle has done all we can to include him without making him feel as though he is putting us out, because he's not; we want him around. If that means buying him and his girlfriend tickets and drinks we feel it's well worth it to have them there. Problem is, he's no longer feelin' it, and is somehow convinced he's become a charity case.
Clearly, there is no right or wrong answer in this. But I am interested in how everyone here deals with this situation. Here are some things my circle and I have done:
1. BBQ- It's cheap! It only takes a few bucks to bring everyone to the table, and who knew they were bringing so much beer! Best of all, no one feels like a charity case.
2. Bonfire- No matter how old you get a bonfire is always fun (granted, now I have a permit). Where I am we opt for the beach, but I'm sure this can take place anywhere... campsite, sandpit, etc. Whatever your preference, a "Firestart" log, some beer or liquor, and you're golden.
3. City events! This is a great thing for not only my group due to a friends unemployment, but has opened my eyes to all my city has to offer! Honestly, I had no idea! I am absolutely loving the art festivals. And! Travel 15 minutes south and I get Hemp Fest!.. I get to be 18 again without worry of prosecution!
That's what I've got. What are all of you doing to keep your friends in the circle without hurting their ego? I'd love to hear it!
