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post #6106 of 13599
We have this new Director at our company who is the definition of a micro manager. She asks excruciating questions and is dense at the same time. Not 10 minutes goes by without me hearing the phrase, "What I hear you saying is..."

Now other people unconsciously have been saying, "What I hear you saying is..."

I must hear this phrase 200 times a day and I want blow my brains out.
post #6107 of 13599
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Originally Posted by patrickBOOTH View Post

We have this new Director at our company who is the definition of a micro manager. She asks excruciating questions and is dense at the same time. Not 10 minutes goes by without me hearing the phrase, "What I hear you saying is..."

Now other people unconsciously have been saying, "What I hear you saying is..."

I must hear this phrase 200 times a day and I want blow my brains out.

I've found people that really like this phrase use it in an attempt to reframe things to suit them. When I catch people doing this to me with this phrase I reply, "If that's what you're hearing you are not listening very well..." and repeat my initial framing of it. I then ask them to repeat back to me what I said (if they are really persistent fucks with this tactic.) I mean, used very sparingly and in the right situation, accurate attempts at re-summary really can help a conversation. Used like this though? Not so much.
post #6108 of 13599
It can help, but in this woman's situation she just has zero confidence of her understanding of things. Nervous nelly.
post #6109 of 13599
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Originally Posted by patrickBOOTH View Post

It can help, but in this woman's situation she just has zero confidence of her understanding of things. Nervous nelly.

What I hear you saying is that you are in love with this woman and are looking for a way to take advantage of her lack of confidence.
post #6110 of 13599
Hmm, maybe. I do go for the, "Angels with broken wing" types usually. You can mold them into what you want them to be. devil.gif
post #6111 of 13599
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Originally Posted by Piobaire View Post

I've found people that really like this phrase use it in an attempt to reframe things to suit them. When I catch people doing this to me with this phrase I reply, "If that's what you're hearing you are not listening very well..." and repeat my initial framing of it. I then ask them to repeat back to me what I said (if they are really persistent fucks with this tactic.) I mean, used very sparingly and in the right situation, accurate attempts at re-summary really can help a conversation. Used like this though? Not so much.

It's a buzz-phrase currently popular with the bullshit workplace communications consultant/trainer crowd, so I'm sure she was trained to do it in some seminar or workshop.
post #6112 of 13599
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Originally Posted by JayJay View Post

I've always wanted a seersucker suit, but can bring myself to buy one. Instead I opt for poplin or linen because I'm not sure I'd wear the seersucker.

The secret to wearing seersucker is to pretend that you are not wearing seersucker.
post #6113 of 13599
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Originally Posted by patrickBOOTH View Post

We have this new Director at our company who is the definition of a micro manager. She asks excruciating questions and is dense at the same time. Not 10 minutes goes by without me hearing the phrase, "What I hear you saying is..."

Now other people unconsciously have been saying, "What I hear you saying is..."

I must hear this phrase 200 times a day and I want blow my brains out.



Years ago a woman who worked for me liked to restate what I said by saying "So your fear is that blah, blah, blah..."

I would not let her do it. I told her "My fear is venomous snakes up close. This is not my fear. This is me telling you how I want things done."
post #6114 of 13599
I wear it once a week, from Easter to late September, Usually go full suit, white OCBD, solid color dark tie (if I wear a tie). Get lots of compliments.
post #6115 of 13599
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Originally Posted by lawyerdad View Post

It's a buzz-phrase currently popular with the bullshit workplace communications consultant/trainer crowd, so I'm sure she was trained to do it in some seminar or workshop.

More reasons to be cynical about such people!
post #6116 of 13599
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Originally Posted by FLMountainMan View Post

I wear it once a week, from Easter to late September, Usually go full suit, white OCBD, solid color dark tie (if I wear a tie). Get lots of compliments.
I'd wear it as a full suit, too. I'm not a fan of seersucker worn as odd jackets or odd pants. If I lived in the south I'd probably have a suit by now.
post #6117 of 13599
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Originally Posted by Piobaire View Post

More reasons to be cynical about such people!
What I hear you saying is that it is an industry rife with smug, useless hacks, most of whom settled into it after failing or plateauing in other fields.
post #6118 of 13599
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Originally Posted by Steve Smith View Post

Years ago a woman who worked for me liked to restate what I said by saying "So your fear is that blah, blah, blah..."

I would not let her do it. I told her "My fear is venomous snakes up close. This is not my fear. This is me telling you how I want things done."

lol8[1].gif That's great.
post #6119 of 13599
Why most men have absolutely atrocious taste in ties confused.gif
post #6120 of 13599
I don't know how to judge that comment being I have never seen how you dress. I have seen the car you drive, however.
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