Originally Posted by lawyerdad
That thing where somebody posts a picture of a little girl who has a physical birth defect or some sort of evident developmental disorder, writes some story about how another kid something something mean to her on the playground. and then asks everyone on the interwebz to comment on how beautiful she is or "like" if they think she is beautiful. Assuming the story about schoolyard bullying/name-calling/whatever isn't a complete fiction, is the solution really to teach the kid that the way to respond to small-minded comments from others is to indiscriminately seek affirmations of your physical beauty from as many random strangers as possible? Honestly, it creeps me out a little bit.
I don't get the whole "everybody is beautiful" validation thing. It's untrue. We're evolutionary programmed to respond to certain things, and while there are some variations in how we react, some people are indeed more physically attractive than others. The thing to teach kids is not that everyone is beautiful- which even 5 year olds know is bullshit. You need to teach them that not everybody is attractive, that it's okay to be unattractive, that you shouldn't draw your worth from your physical appearance. Show them a picture of Janet Yellen- she is not, and never has been an attractive woman, but she worked and studied hard, and became one of the most powerful people on the planet by using her brain. Tell them that even the most beautiful people usually turn ugly as they get old, and that they need to stay in school so they can get a job where attractiveness is irrelevant. Don't validate, empower.