Originally Posted by MrG
So, I've observed an interesting phenomenon as I've gotten older and people I know have paired off: Somewhere around 30, it becomes the norm for women to marry well beneath their attractiveness. At first I thought it was a money, or marrying a successful older man, thing, but these women all seem to marry guys near their age. (Or maybe I'm looking at it from the wrong gender norm, and these guys are all outkicking their coverage.)
At first I thought it was just my inability to judge dudes based upon their attractiveness, but MrsG agrees that it has become pervasive since my group of (Facebook) friends has turned the 30 corner.
Either way, is this the norm? If so, what causes it? And why don't we have a name for it?
I'd bet this is driven from the other side. High value men (attractive, rich, whatever) can marry younger younger women and are less likely to be interested in the 30-something singles. It's hard for women to date younger, since younger men are less likely to be ready to settle down and have kids, which gets to be a pressing issue around then. Women don't gain as much value from career success, relative to male peers.
I've seen this with women physicians/researchers. The stereotypical doctor (esp. Asians) worked their ass off at the expense of social life to get through undergrad, med school, residency. Now they're ~30, making good money, and want a husband. But men in their social demographic are either married already,don't care about the money so much, or want a younger wife. So they settle for someone below their level.