Originally Posted by j
If you're going to toss it, try wetting the whole thing down (just the outer silk) and letting it dry.
I did that once with an expensive Davidoff tie that someone (me) had just spilled a half-glass of red wine on. The tie was a wonderful golden yellow, with periwinkle and red occasional dots and a very interesting texture, wich I do not know how to describe except as "scrunchy" . We (everyone at the dinner table, and several adjoining tables, had a different suggestion) tried daubbing with selzer with only minor success, so I just ordered a large glass of selzer, rolled up the tie and stuck the whole thing in the glass to let soak through dinner, dessert, post-prandials, etc... As the stain seemed to be gone after this, I then borrowed a cloth napkin (white) from the Maitre-D', wrapped the tie and went home, where I hung the tie to dry.
By morning, the stain was indeed gone, the tie had dried but was kind of bunched up in places. I steamed it as best I could with a steam iron, but it finally required flat pressing which, unfortunately, flattened down the edges a bit too much, so I inserted a small round tube (actually, the cardboard off a wire pants hanger) up inside the tie and pressed the edges against this, which, amazingly, restored the soft edges of the tie. The only changes I noticed were that the tie seemed to have a slightly different texture, though at least as pleasing as the original, and was just about 1 tone darker in the gold color. This was several years ago and it is still one of my favorite and most worn ties. The only caveat is to be willing to throw the tie away if nothing works.