or Connect
Styleforum › Forums › Men's Style › Classic Menswear › Forum etiquette
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

Forum etiquette

post #1 of 4
Thread Starter 
Hello all, To avoid this forum going the same way as the GQ forum, let's set some rules for ourselves. What do you think of these, Steve? 1. Participants shall refrain from denigrating another participant's opinion or tastes, and from commenting on another participant's age, financial situation, familial status, etc... This is markedly different from posting one's own opinion on a pertinent matter (e.g. you might post your opinion that you believe that young people shouldn't deficit spend, but not that you think Participant X spends too much money). 2. . Participants shall likewise refrain from boasting of their own accomplishments. I doubt very much whether boasting about one's alma mater or one's material success is gentlemanly behaviour. I personally find this type of behavior particularly crass, and I think that we ought to actively discourage it. These are really just common manners that shouldn't need to be made so explicit. Anyway, please feel free to add your opinions so that we can come to some sort of consensus.
post #2 of 4
Most of what you describe is common manners, but there's also the "common internet sense": i.e. a new person puts up a scathing remark as a first post, I'm likely to count them as a troll and ignore them, or a lurker who's finally gone postal. Same thing for stupid polls or obviously inflammatory questions. I think some folks here are being far too sensitive - this is an anonymous message board. Who knows, we could all be talking bullsh*t. If you've got a regular weekly poker game, you KNOW we're talking bullsh*t Face it: this is the internet. We're posting under anonymous handles. We have no rep, we have no cred. You can try to build one up, but really, what's the point? You're still typing into a computer who doesn't give a rat's ass if you're wearing something from the finest skilled craftsman in Italy or Wal-mart. My long winded advice is to chill, ignore morons and trolls, (see what guy mumbling to himself on the subway? Yeah, shift over a couple of rows) keep it in perspective and HAVE FUN.
post #3 of 4
I don't think we really need enforced rules. This forum has been up for months and this is the first "incident" /shrug. Call me pretentious, call me a snob, call me obsessive/compulsive and I really won't care, I've got a thick skin for those types of insults. What I do take offense to is someone making the assumption that I'm some schmo that doesn't have an income and that leeches off my parents just because I indulge in nice things and haven't graduated yet. I take offense to that because because i DO bust my ass and I work not because I have to, but because I chose to. I like my job and am extremely well payed for my age. However, the best part is the great contacts I make working here. On top of school this fall, I'll be working 40-60 hours a week (I work closer to 70-80hrs/wk in the summer). Aside from gaining good experience and making good contacts, I work so that nobody can point the finger and say that I have everything handed to me on a silver platter. That was the first time I've posted anything the least bit inflammatory and I've not once bragged about myself or flaunted anything since I began posting on this forum. I addressed MikeF's "points" one at a time. If I bragged about my intelligence, I only did so in response comments made in his post. For the record, and I only say this because I admit my endorsment of myself might have sounded a bit grandiose, I work at a boutique hotel for my parents, the owners, in a managerial position. That's where I meet all these people and that's how I pay for all my stuff. Would I have the position otherwise? Probably not, but I grew into the job naturally thanks to my constant exposure to the business since the age of about 15. Am I lucky? Yes, but that's life and when it comes down to it there probably aren't too many people that would perform my functions better than I do whether they went through the regular job application process or not. You can believe me or not, it's your choice. Yes this is the internet, so maybe I've built myself this elaborate alternate identity so that I can be cool in my own mind on the styleforum.net message boards ;p Why I'd go to these lengths I'll leave up to your imagination. Davei is partly right in saying that you can try and build up a rep but what's the point. On one hand there isn't one, but on the other hand, it's kind of nice having an idea of who you're talking to. It lends sense of community to the forum, and that's part of the fun. I would trust that most people don't stretch the truth about themselves too far, as there really is no point to doing so on a forum such as this one. And LA Guy, I really don't think we need to worry about this forum degenerating to the point of the GQ Forum. Forced registration puts a limit on the number of trolls(we really haven't had any to date). If we do ever get someone like Rodeo Drive here, J can ban his IP Anyway I won't be posting on this matter again. Let's get back to regular posting
post #4 of 4
I missed it; where is the 'incident' in question?
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: Classic Menswear
Styleforum › Forums › Men's Style › Classic Menswear › Forum etiquette