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A question re: wedding etiquette

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bsyde82

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My sister's wedding is approaching and I'm a groomsman. My question is, is it ok to change out of my tux into a suit of my choice after the ceremony and picture taking w/ the bridal party has concluded?

I'd rather spend the evening in my own suit rather than the inevitable men's wearhouse tux I'll be rockin' at the ceremony. Since I'm a groomsman by default (brother of bride), I feel like it might be ok as opposed to a situation where I'm one of a band of friends who does this. Obviously, I don't want to go against proper wedding etiquette. My sister is ok with it, but she's not the type to say no to something like this.

Thoughts?
 
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Buy your own DJ. Don't forfeit this opportunity to score with bridesmaids/guests. Plus, everyone will be confused by the pictures from the reception (wasn't he wearing a tux? does he have a twin brother?)
 
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I would not change clothes between the ceremony and reception unless the bride and groom were doing so.
 
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Just don't wear evening clothes to a wedding. Forget about American conventions, or you'll be missing the forest for the trees.
 
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I would stay in the tuxedo.
 
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given I am in the throws of wedding planning myself my suggestion is wear what you are asked to wear. Wear it like it is the best bespoke suit you have ever worn. Your sister will love you for it.
After all it is only one day of your life.

cheers
Bob
 
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If you are asked to be in the wedding, and you accept, you also accept the wardrobe. Just go with it and at your wedding you can choose what to wear.
 
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I wouldn't change clothes inbetween, you will probably be the oly one who dose which will stick you out like a sore thumb.
 
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Originally Posted by 63f100
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given I am in the throws of wedding planning myself my suggestion is wear what you are asked to wear. Wear it like it is the best bespoke suit you have ever worn. Your sister will love you for it.
After all it is only one day of your life.

cheers
Bob

I agree - it's her show, not yours.
 
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What shoes are you gonna wear?
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But yeah...like everyone said ; just wear the tux.
 
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You need to stay in the tux, sorry. There are usually different things that happen during the reception. For example there are often wedding party introductions. So the DJ will say your name and the bridesmaid you are escorting as you walk into the hall. If you're the only one not wearing a tux, it's going to look off. You might also be sitting at a specific table, and will then be on display.

Also, knowing weddings, you won't have time to change anyway. It's a pretty tight schedule. Taking photos at the church (or hall), then probably driving to another location for the other photos (sometimes a park, or outside a historic looking building). As soon as they're done it's straight to the reception.
 
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what everyone said. its your sister's wedding- her rules.
 
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If it is daytime event convince her that tuxedos are not daytime wear - merely fancy dress before 1900.
 
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Originally Posted by bsyde82
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I'd rather spend the evening in my own suit rather than the inevitable men's wearhouse tux I'll be rockin' at the ceremony. Since I'm a groomsman by default (brother of bride), I feel like it might be ok as opposed to a situation where I'm one of a band of friends who does this. Obviously, I don't want to go against proper wedding etiquette. My sister is ok with it, but she's not the type to say no to something like this.

Thoughts?

You're selfish. So go ahead, change your clothes, get drunk and try to get laid. Weddings are great for that.
 

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