First date - should the guy always pay for the girl or should you go Dutch? - Page 4

You should have another guy pay. Example, I was on a business trip recently, and some guy from another company who we were drinking with wanted to get with a colleague of mine, so he ended up paying a fairly hefty tab. I crashed soon after, he attempted to get her to his hotel room, she came to mine instead, ten minutes later I was slopping around in her trough.

This is excellent. Women know two type of men providers and fuckers.

I just cannot imagine going Dutch on dates...."oh well you did have the salad, it's hardly fair I pay half of that". Jesus. I will pretty much always pick up the tab. Sometimes, in groups, I will slip downstairs and pay the whole thing without the table noticing, just to make a gesture. Did that Sunday night when I met the gf's sister for the first time, invited them out to dinner, and she had some friends in town. Didn't make a big deal out of it, just took care of it. Now I get good reviews apparently. I didn't buy the reviews with my card, I bought them with the way I handled the situation and hosted the table. At the same time, I am Australian, fairness is hardwired into me...and I don't let myself be a money tree. My best relationships have been the ones where, when I pay, we go on for drinks or icecream or whatever somewhere else, her purse comes out and she insists. Incidentally the night after the dinner above, we went to a wine bar, gf's sister insisted on covering me and her. I pushed her to let me toss some money on the table (we left early), but she just wasn't having it. Current gf doesn't really have a whole lot of money at the moment, but sometimes I show up at her place, and she's made me cupcakes. This rocks. I much prefer this to saying 'so...that'll be 19.48 each, but don't forget your share of the tip". Cupcakes works for me. The splitting bill thing I just think is weird.

wtf........ girlfriend?
Dawg.

Had light first date tonight; topics of conversation mostly involved strippers and strip clubs. Ended up being Dutch. She said we're going out again.

ahh, we will see how it plays out from here. Shorter to just say gf than it is to re-describe the rigmarole.

Dating's for chumps.

What did SoCal and Randllr do?

First date and you asked her out, you pay.

Me to I could never let a date pick up the tab, it would just seem weird, same when we go out with other people I prefer to pick up a tab, not because I've got money to burn, I just don't like to feel like others will think i'm a moocher.

It just seems really weird if you let a date pay for anything, just doesn't feel right.