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post #16 of 35
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Originally Posted by Tck13
I don't quite get when I should be shaking someone's hand (especially women). What is some proper etiquette?
Where I live the real question is whether to kiss or not. You kiss your family and close friends (both genders). You kiss a woman, even stranger, unless it is a very formal setting.* You shake hands the rest of the time.

I had forgotten how different some other cultures are with body contact, and collected a few raised eyebrows the last time I've been in the UK, a couple weeks ago.

*: "you" is meant in a general sense here, not only "me because I am a man" - I really mean that women kiss men and women, whereas men kiss women but shake hands with men
post #17 of 35
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Originally Posted by operationexpat
I live in China. I try to avoid shaking hands since soap in bathrooms seems to be an alien concept.

Sara

wait until you get to india, Sarah
post #18 of 35
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Originally Posted by Huntsman
Yeah that avatar rules, Tokyo.

~ Huntsman
Word.
post #19 of 35
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Originally Posted by Étienne
Where I live the real question is whether to kiss or not. You kiss your family and close friends (both genders). You kiss a woman, even stranger, unless it is a very formal setting.* You shake hands the rest of the time.
Brings up a good point. As an American, I've never really mastered this one. Is it a real 'lip on cheek' kiss? Or more 'cheek on cheek'? And I know you're supposed to pucker, but are you supposed to make a noise? Like a real kiss sound, or just a 'muah'? I'm being serious, I always wondered these things...
post #20 of 35
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Originally Posted by Renault78law
Brings up a good point. As an American, I've never really mastered this one. Is it a real 'lip on cheek' kiss? Or more 'cheek on cheek'? And I know you're supposed to pucker, but are you supposed to make a noise? Like a real kiss sound, or just a 'muah'? I'm being serious, I always wondered these things...

The protocol is really quite simple. Bring your lips to the side of the intended's face, open your mouth and lick from the jawbone to just under the eye. Hope that helps.
post #21 of 35
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Originally Posted by Tck13
I think I like bowing better than handshaking.

Indeed.

Somewhere it is said that in the East one bows to acknowledge the spark of divinity in another, while in the West one shakes hands to show that one doesn't have a weapon concealed in the hand.

Regards,
Huntsman
post #22 of 35
I bump elbows. It is more hygienic.
post #23 of 35
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Huntsman
Indeed.

Somewhere it is said that in the East one bows to acknowledge the spark of divinity in another, while in the West one shakes hands to show that one doesn't have a weapon concealed in the hand.

Regards,
Huntsman


I think that is the meaning of "Namaste"

The divinity in me bows to the divinity in you.
post #24 of 35
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Originally Posted by Renault78law
As an American, I've never really mastered this one. Is it a real 'lip on cheek' kiss? Or more 'cheek on cheek'? And I know you're supposed to pucker, but are you supposed to make a noise? Like a real kiss sound, or just a 'muah'? I'm being serious, I always wondered these things...
It is cheek on cheek. Anything else would be very impractical (you would have to contort your face). You make a sound (like a real kiss sound). Two such "kisses" (one on each cheek) in Paris, 3 or 4 in some other parts of France.
post #25 of 35
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Originally Posted by Vintage Gent
The protocol is really quite simple. Bring your lips to the side of the intended's face, open your mouth and lick from the jawbone to just under the eye. Hope that helps.
And this would be the Galveston version of a Wet Willie?
post #26 of 35
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Originally Posted by Dakota rube
And this would be the Galveston version of a Wet Willie?

Geez, I don't know that there's ever been a Galveston version of anything. Even our civic corruption and incompetence are pretty run-of-the-mill.
post #27 of 35
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Originally Posted by Tck13
I understand you can't speak for all women but... A general consensus of women might be that a handshake upon meeting is normal?

Funny, I just spoke to a customer and she shook my hand.


hm. i shake hands when i meet people or am being introduced to a friend's friend or something like that, m or f. i've been to two interviews in thepast two days and shaken people's hands.
now, if im being introduced to a friend of my moms, or every time we greet we kiss the cheek (the whole south america thing). but every time i greet friends or other social situations i dontthinktheresahandshake involved. my keyboard sticks, sorry, orange soda.

the general consensus of my friends that are female hate the weak handshake from boy thing, its creepy. i dunno, its uptoyou. or you could justmak eitreally awkward and do some weird complicated handshake that theotherperson doesnt know what you're doing andthenyougetreally confused...

i'm rambling.
post #28 of 35
In professional situations, I've experienced little difference in gender (other than that women have a tendency to offer to shake your hand less). In personal situations, I find most women just hug me in situations where men shake my hand (family friends, etc). With my friends and people I care about, fuck formality.
post #29 of 35
I'll agree with that. I think business etiquette doesn't (and shouldn't) put emphasis on gender roles.

In personal situations, I can't remember ever having a handshake that didn't go along with an introduction. I think women, being the more emotional, touchy-feely sex, are more inclined to hugs and cheek-kisses.
post #30 of 35
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It is cheek on cheek. Anything else would be very impractical (you would have to contort your face). You make a sound (like a real kiss sound). Two such "kisses" (one on each cheek) in Paris, 3 or 4 in some other parts of France.

The Middle East is the same way. Friends, both male, will often go three or four kisses on each cheek, even if they saw each other the day prior.

Germany even does handshakes after you've slept with a person, best I can tell.

Tom
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