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Advice / suggestions on following up with girl

post #1 of 14
5/28/09 at 1:17am
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Just looking for some quick advice / thoughts on the best way to do this.

A - my friend
B - girl he met at a bar
C - B's friend

A met B couple of weekends ago for a few minutes at a bar, got along well, exchanged numbers. Next weekend, A called B to meet up at a bar, B came and brought C with her.

A then called me and some other mutual friends to meet them at this bar. I talked to C for a bit but by this point, B was pretty drunk and C had to constantly get her water and keep an eye on her. C and I got along really well for short bursts till she had to take care of B.

Long story short, A & B did not get along as well this time around and probably will not be hanging out any time soon, if ever. However, at the end of the night, when B & C had to leave because B wanted to go home, I missed my window to get C's number.

How do I use my friend to contact B to get C's number for me? Or is there a better way to handle this?

Unfortunately not as interesting as some of the other queries here, just looking for some thoughts / ideas!
This second meeting was this past weekend so I want to follow up sooner rather than later.

Thanks!
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post #2 of 14
5/28/09 at 1:25am
Hopefully you remember the girls name. Anyways, ask A for B's number and explain the situation to him. If he is a friend and not a cock-blocker, he would understand the circumstances. Call B and ask for C's number. If B is truly a friend of C, and you guys did hit it off, there should be no problem here. Last step, get in contact with C.
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post #3 of 14
5/28/09 at 1:36am
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A is a friend, not an issue. B - I don't think she remembers me, or much, from that night. But you think I should contact B as opposed to my friend (A) doing it?
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post #4 of 14
5/28/09 at 8:27am
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Originally Posted by fashion_newbie View Post
A is a friend, not an issue.
B - I don't think she remembers me, or much, from that night.

But you think I should contact B as opposed to my friend (A) doing it?
You said A and B didn't get along that well and won't meet again, therefore it's better to do it yourself. And you're not in elementary school anymore, makes you look better to do it yourself.
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post #5 of 14
5/28/09 at 9:06am
Forget that C exists, marry a substitute who reminds you of her, and start drinking more and more night by night as your youth and your love of life are slowly but relentlessly leeched from your body. Awaken one day forty years hence with the realisation that you have been living a lie with a woman you never respected or admired and fathered children whose highest aspiration will be to become a cog in the social machine. Take up smoking, contract lung cancer, and spend the waning years of your life breathing through a respirator in a hospital bed, cursing the thin veneer of a normal life that you've tried so hard to maintain all while smiling a fake smile to your mediocre family and assuring them that everything will be alright, despite your knowledge that nothing will ever be alright ever again, and that nothing has ever been right since you passed up the opportunity to explore your love with C all those years ago. Or man up, get B's number from A, and call her. Tell her who you are and that you were really interested in her friend, and maybe she could organise a get together or a blind date? Your choice, but it's one or the other.
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post #6 of 14
5/28/09 at 1:45pm
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Forget that C exists, marry a substitute who reminds you of her, and start drinking more and more night by night as your youth and your love of life are slowly but relentlessly leeched from your body. Awaken one day forty years hence with the realisation that you have been living a lie with a woman you never respected or admired and fathered children whose highest aspiration will be to become a cog in the social machine. Take up smoking, contract lung cancer, and spend the waning years of your life breathing through a respirator in a hospital bed, cursing the thin veneer of a normal life that you've tried so hard to maintain all while smiling a fake smile to your mediocre family and assuring them that everything will be alright, despite your knowledge that nothing will ever be alright ever again, and that nothing has ever been right since you passed up the opportunity to explore your love with C all those years ago.

Or man up, get B's number from A, and call her. Tell her who you are and that you were really interested in her friend, and maybe she could organise a get together or a blind date?




Your choice, but it's one or the other.

Bam!
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post #7 of 14
5/28/09 at 4:08pm
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Originally Posted by Tardek View Post
Forget that C exists, marry a substitute who reminds you of her, and start drinking more and more night by night as your youth and your love of life are slowly but relentlessly leeched from your body. Awaken one day forty years hence with the realisation that you have been living a lie with a woman you never respected or admired and fathered children whose highest aspiration will be to become a cog in the social machine. Take up smoking, contract lung cancer, and spend the waning years of your life breathing through a respirator in a hospital bed, cursing the thin veneer of a normal life that you've tried so hard to maintain all while smiling a fake smile to your mediocre family and assuring them that everything will be alright, despite your knowledge that nothing will ever be alright ever again, and that nothing has ever been right since you passed up the opportunity to explore your love with C all those years ago.

Or man up, get B's number from A, and call her. Tell her who you are and that you were really interested in her friend, and maybe she could organise a get together or a blind date?




Your choice, but it's one or the other.

Thanks for putting it in perspective, will follow up this week!
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post #8 of 14
5/29/09 at 4:37pm
With all the social networking sites I find it hard to beleive you actually have to jump through these hoops to contact someone. Also if B is any kind of friend to C she wont just give you her number. Your going to have to give your number to B and hope C cares to call you back.
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post #9 of 14
5/29/09 at 4:54pm
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With all the social networking sites I find it hard to beleive you actually have to jump through these hoops to contact someone.

Also if B is any kind of friend to C she wont just give you her number. Your going to have to give your number to B and hope C cares to call you back.
of all the keyboard jockeys in this thread (and on this messageboard), you're the only one who actually has any real-world experience with girls (trading mickey mouse messages on facebook and myspace don't count).

let's break it down, buyer's remorse style:

A. we got along really well in short busts = she was being nice to you because it was the courteous thing to do with "mutual friends/acquaintences."
B. if she is hot at all, she's not going to care to talk to you or see you again unless you left a really good lasting impression, which obviously was not the case due to A.
C. you're being naive and overly optimistic if you can't see that your friend's girl "dumped" him that night. if she won't even want to talk to your friend, what makes you think she'll get your friend your girl's number?

this is the truth about A, B, and C. i would advise to let it go unless you want to be the next desperate chump the girls laugh about.

saving the world one post at a time,
buyer's remorse


p.s. and yes, i have done the whole "give the messenger a girl your number and hope she calls you back" thing and she did call me back, but that was because we hit it off really well for more than just 5 minutes.
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post #10 of 14
5/30/09 at 6:19am
Buyer's remorse, you are truly a social dynamo and I look forward to your next tale.
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post #11 of 14
6/9/09 at 3:08pm
You're making this more complicated than it is. girls aren't stupid. Get B's number and text her yourself: "hey, this is A's friend mike. I wanted to get C's number. Can you pass it along? Thx" No need to say why you want the number (they know) or why you've gone through the trouble of texting b youself (she'll know). If the door is open, you'll get c's #. if not, not and move on. This is real advice. Let us know how it goes.
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post #12 of 14
6/9/09 at 4:32pm
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Originally Posted by Sebastian_Flyte View Post
You're making this more complicated than it is. girls aren't stupid. Get B's number and text her yourself: "hey, this is A's friend mike. I wanted to get C's number. Can you pass it along? Thx"

No need to say why you want the number (they know) or why you've gone through the trouble of texting b youself (she'll know). If the door is open, you'll get c's #. if not, not and move

This is real advice. Let us know how it goes.

QFT
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post #13 of 14
6/10/09 at 1:19am
This thread was answered in the 2nd post. How did this question even needed asking? Time to sack it up brother.
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post #14 of 14
6/10/09 at 9:02am
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This thread was answered in the 2nd post. How did this question even needed asking? Time to sack it up brother.

I found the fourth response hilarious and informing.
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