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post #31 of 41
5/28/09 at 11:51am
lots of conflicting advice in here

the simple answer is, nothing ventured nothing gained / no risk no reward. 999 times out of 1000, a girl is NOT going to make the move on you, so unless you do something you'll get NOTHING. If thats what you want, then keep being a pussy and you'll never see any kind of results. Or, you can set-up plans with her, and when the moment is right, just make a damn move. Worst case scenario is she's not into it, and then at least you know what the deal is. Then you can move on to the next girl.

Bottom line, just like in life, if you want something you have to go out and get it for yourself. It's not going to fall in your lap. Be a god damn man and make an effort.
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post #32 of 41
5/28/09 at 12:07pm
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Originally Posted by Milhouse View Post
Here is a simple rule...

You need to need to talk to about 10 girls to get 1 phone number.

You need to call and date 10 of those girls to get 1 woman worth something more.

That is about how it works. 100 women to find 1 decent woman.

That means lots of rejection on both sides. . . you'll stop calling and dating lots of them, lots won't give you their numbers, or they will stop calling you, etc. It takes work. Sack up and realize rejection doesn't mean anything, you don't want the women to take it personally and they don't want you to take it personally.

In my experience, getting a number is easy. more like 1 out of 10 girls WONT give out a number. Not all of them will pan out or call back, maybe half, but getting a number is really easy.
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post #33 of 41
5/28/09 at 4:17pm
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Originally Posted by buyer's remorse View Post
people say it's luck, but i've found that if i make a girl like me before i get her number and make her want to see me again, my batting average is significantly higher than 0.1.

And how many girls do you talk to and realize that you don't want their number? Personally, when I see a hot girl, I tend not to be able to judge her personality until I actually talk to her. (on some occasions, I'm near enough that I can hear her talk to her friends, and realize she's an idiot). And unfortunately, when referring to the US population, I am starting to believe it is less than 1 out of 100 girls that I'd want to date.

Either you aren't keeping in mind that this goes both ways. . . you are judging the girl just as she is judging you. . . or like I said, your standards are lower than mine.
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post #34 of 41
5/28/09 at 5:39pm
1 out of 10 is not bad if youre going after those hotties that noone else goes up to because they are intimidated. and i dont mean that hot girl, i mean the hotttttty! otherwise its a horrible %. and yes getting a number is not that hard, actually meeting up with the girl after is much harder. usually it goes like this, if you make out with the girl and you dont bang her that night, youll probably never see her again. if you dont make out etc and just talk and get the number you have a much higher chance of seeing them again.
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post #35 of 41
5/28/09 at 9:16pm
Just tell her that you feel comfortable with her and want to see her more often than time usually allows. You can play it off as wanting to explore the friendship I guess, which will soothe your inner pussy.
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post #36 of 41
5/28/09 at 9:26pm
such a masculine post from such a masculine guy. i'm thinking marlboro man, tom sellick, and clint eastwood all rolled into one.
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post #37 of 41
5/29/09 at 2:17am
^ Creepy!

To the OP, I'd just do it, don't run all the what if's over and over and chicken out by thinking you are going to fail. You could also do a practice run on asking out a girl you don't like as much out for coffee somewhere just to get your nerves out of the way.
When you do ask the girl you want out, be yourself because anything else will come off insincere to her.
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post #38 of 41
5/30/09 at 12:43pm
I have this problem as well....just gotta grab my balls and not care about the outcome i suppose
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post #39 of 41
6/1/09 at 8:26pm
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I have this problem as well....just gotta grab my balls and not care about the outcome i suppose

The only way to be ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN you won't get her number is to never talk to her.
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post #40 of 41
6/10/09 at 7:34am
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Originally Posted by DJ MAC View Post
I have this problem as well....just gotta grab my balls and not care about the outcome i suppose

That's harder said than done, all the posts that are like "just grow a pair and be a man", if it was some random girl in a bar then yeah that's the way to go. But if her friendship means alot to you just going straight in for the kill might make her blow you off and therefore would be a bad thing.

Take more of an interest in her, don't act like you've got no interest in her, call her or message her just like hey how are you? let her know that you think about her apart from when your on the phone, (the fact she phones you to talk is probably a sure sign she wants a little more than your opinion on her clothes) if you get signs that she likes you like body language or suggestive movement then go for the kill. It's probably very unlikely she doesn't like you. If your in different schools and she calls you then I think she wants to see you more.

Good luck buddy, only definite thing I can say is never regret anything, so if you think you'd regret not telling her then tell her. You've got to make the decision as to whether you would rather have her in your life as a friend, than not have her in your life because it's to awkward after you made a move.
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post #41 of 41
6/10/09 at 9:00am
The best way to put the question, which I heard only the other day, is "Can I see you?". Just be genuine, and if she turns you down* don't be awkward about it, just go straight back into friend mode. *Let's be realistic, she will probably turn you down. If she wanted you, she'd have given you signals out the wazoo.
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