Excellent article on quarter-life crisis - Page 8

Originally Posted by Connemara

He's proud of his job at the car wash.

Originally Posted by Aperipan

And you're a college student who spends 89% of your time looking at granny porn. Talk about opportunity cost. The worst part is that you spend another 5% of your time opining about your geriphiliac fantasies on this forum

Originally Posted by Connemara

I like grannies, but not granny porn.

Originally Posted by JD_May

Not to ruin the narrative (and if there's anyone less well read in family law may he raise his hand) but if they're living together and it's basically like marriage aren't they common law spouses, hence doesn't she generally get to take half his stuff?

Originally Posted by crazyquik

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Originally Posted by crazyquik

Common law marriage is no longer recognized in all states I don't think. Where it is recognized, there is usually a requirement for years. Often strong evidence of common law marriage requires the woman to take his surname, for them to have joint checking accounts, to hold themselves out as "really" being married, etc. In most of the cases of the Ring Chaser, they often maintain seperate apartments for a while but basically live together. Eventually some move in together.

But none of my friends have cohabitated and then bought cars together, bought a house together, had a joint checking account, etc. They were more like roomates that had secks; and one roomate wanted to get married and the other never planned on it.

And there is no common law gay marriage.

Originally Posted by dusty

Your credibility is undermined by your repeated use of the word "nookie".

Originally Posted by Aperipan

This is a very informative post.

Originally Posted by crazyquik

Replace with "pokemonning" if you please.

Originally Posted by crazyquik

Common law marriage is no longer recognized in all states I don't think. Where it is recognized, there is usually a requirement for years. Often strong evidence of common law marriage requires the woman to take his surname, for them to have joint checking accounts, to hold themselves out as "really" being married, etc. In most of the cases of the Ring Chaser, they often maintain seperate apartments for a while but basically live together. Eventually some move in together.

Originally Posted by kwilkinson

He's 16 and has a job and is making money. He should be proud.

Originally Posted by crazyquik

What she doesn't realize is that he's a man and relatively happy: he gets to buy all the toys he wants, and he gets steady nookie and has a semi-domestic girlfriend. So he basically has no incentive to marry and there is no social stigma against them cohabitating; he getting lots of extra-marital nookie, and then can trade down in a few years. Under the old-social norms, there was social stigma against a man who deprived a woman of her prime family-formation years, and then jetted. And if they were married early, there would be divorce and a seperation of property. In the new post-feminist, Sex In The City era, there's no divorce, she doesn't get half his stuff, and he can trade down to a younger model when she gets lines around her eyes It's all upside for the upwardly mobile dude, who's likely to age more gracefully and move into higher earning brackets (and thus become equally or more desirable to women).

She doesn't realize it, but she's wasting her prime family-formation or mate-attracting years on him. She either needs to crap or get off the pot (or, as we say, fish or cut bait). But by the time Ring-Chaser finally realizes he never intended to marry her, her upper arms are flabby, she has lines around her eyes, and unless she's a real catch, then there are hundreds more just like her, but 5 years younger and 15 lbs lighter.

At least, this is my theory developed at 2 am over a few beers with a buddy. Feminists, who pushed for the changes that enabled this, in 5 or 10 years will find a way to blame men for it

Originally Posted by globetrotter

I agree with this 100% - guys used to want to settle down and get a job at the factory or farm, or what ever job they could get, because they couldn't get laid until they did. if they weren't successful enough to put food on a table and have a roof over a families head, no nookie. our society has changed that equation, so why should somebody work at a job he doen'st love and settle down? he has toys, he has sex, he eats well.

Originally Posted by crazyquik

Common law marriage is no longer recognized in all states I don't think. Where it is recognized, there is usually a requirement for years. Often strong evidence of common law marriage requires the woman to take his surname, for them to have joint checking accounts, to hold themselves out as "really" being married, etc. In most of the cases of the Ring Chaser, they often maintain seperate apartments for a while but basically live together. Eventually some move in together.

But none of my friends have cohabitated and then bought cars together, bought a house together, had a joint checking account, etc. They were more like roomates that had secks; and one roomate wanted to get married and the other never planned on it.

And there is no common law gay marriage.

Originally Posted by Piobaire

Just 10 more months away.

Oh hell, who am I kidding? They're both out now. It's sort of odd not to have them.