Globetrotter, what was said to the 5 year old after this happened? Â It might have been good to help him and your son get through this by deconstructing the occurance. When we were in Paris last week, our apartment was 50 yards from the Square Necker (it has a children's playground) and spent quite a few hours there with our 2 1/2 year old. Â I didn't hesitate to discipline a kid who wasn't mine. Â If I see a 3 year old throwing sand at an 18 month old's face, I will intervene if the parents are not watching. Â When I was six or seven, a bully (a boy) tormented me for a few weeks. Â Finally, I snapped, although I was much smaller than he was. Â I began hitting and shouting in a rage. Â He ran away in tears and never bothered me again.
F, I was wondering when you would get in, I was waiting for your input.... I am not of the opinion that it is benifitial to either discipline somebody else's child, or to be overly protective of my child, when there is not a life, limb or soul threatening situation (as FIH mentioned, it can happen). I fugure that we disagree on this, if somebody else is raising there kid to be a bully it is not my position to try and shape the kid - one repremand from a stranger will do nothing but confuse the kid. (on the other hand, one of our sons friends has a bad home situation that is reflected in his behavior and a lot of us have taken to spending time with him to give him stability, to help, but that is an entirely differnet situation). I have pulled kids apart to prevent somebody from getting hurt, but not to try to teach the kids who aren't mine (or part of my circle of friends and family) my values. this kids mother, who actually was a minor friend of ours, who I realy don't think we will see much of from now on, didn't seem overly concerned about the whole thing, although she may not have seen what promted the whole conflict. also, my son will be faced with violence and with unfairness his whole life,I don't want to give him so much protection that he isn't prepared, like some type of galapogas tortoise, unprepared for hunters.