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post #106 of 191
robbie, i think you're doing fine. the fact that you have these goals for yourself is great , and i'm sure it'll work out if you give enough thought to what it is you really, really, really want to do. i'm pulling for you. people here should chill. not everyone has the same background. it's not like he's doing nothing...
post #107 of 191
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by username79 View Post
To summarize the OP:

- Don't want to get a degree (work) because taking classes is too hard (work is too hard). Especially, taking classes I am not interested in is too hard for me!

I do want to get a degree.

- Looking for a job that doesn't require education (work) and provides money to allow someone to pursue interests/leisure activities (not work).

I am looking for something temporary that doesn't require education, to make money to pursue education.

- Don't see myself going to trade school because I wouldn't find myself "enjoying" it (work)

I haven't mentioned being against a trade school, only that it isn't my first choice.

- Don't see myself being a welder (work), electrician (work), apprentice (work)
see above.

- Don't see myself figuring out what I want to do because personality tests don't show me careers that will bring me fulfillment (See above, I want to do no work to be able to not work)

I've mentioned that I am not against hard work/physical labor... its something I've done, and will gladly do if it is how I am to provide for my future wife and down the road a piece our family.

- If I have to "tolerate a job/career" (direct quote) I at least want to make money.

I don't get why this is an issue. I think its saying, I am willing to work something I don't love in order to get by.

- My gf will marry me even if I am flat broke. I guess she will take care of herself and our kids while I work at Target.
I mentioned wanting to better myself.

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Are you fucking serious? This is a prime welfare candidate. Don't want to do anything (especially if it is not completely enjoyable) but want to make money. The lack of self-responsibility is astounding, and people here encourage it!



I live on my own, I pay my bills. As a matter of fact I attended this high school. I worked as much as the law allowed me to at the time (I was 14) in order to pay 80% of my tuition. I did similarly when I was in college.

I have never, and will never be on unemployment or welfare. I attend church and have a loving supportive family, I don't believe the government owes me anything aside from the ability to pursue life liberty and happiness.

I am not 'too good' for any job ANY JOB. I am not above education, or work either.

There is no silver spoon in my mouth, and I feel no sense of entitlement.

I am simply struggling, and this forum is a community I feel can offer me some insight.


And FWIW, I inquired about volunteering w/ an adult literacy program. I also hand-wrote a letter to Phil Mooney (historian/archivist for Coca-Cola) inquiring as to the job requirements for a position at the archives of The Coca-Cola Company.
post #108 of 191
Have you just considered taking some time off and traveling?

Could be anywhere really. Europe, Asia, Australia, even a road trip around the U.S. might provide for some insight.
post #109 of 191
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Originally Posted by Lel View Post
Have you just considered taking some time off and traveling?

Could be anywhere really. Europe, Asia, Australia, even a road trip around the U.S. might provide for some insight.

Driving around aimlessly for a year should help his cause.
post #110 of 191
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^please... unless you have something constructive to say GTFO of my thread.^
post #111 of 191
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^please... unless you have something constructive to say GTFO of my thread.^
Don't even waste your breath. If school is what you really want, don't get sidetracked into thinking you need a lot of money to do it. It'll only take a couple of years and it'll go by very quickly. You'll be able to work summers / evenings. You'll make it through somehow. Everybody makes it through somehow. UPS hires students and you can work 5 hrs a night M-F and I think you still get benefits. A community college to start would be perfect until you get enough credits to transfer. I'd bet you could even do this without any loans. I wish I would've done that. If that's your biggest wish, just do it. Don't worry about the money. If you really want to do it you'll find a way. Don't get bogged down in any negative thinking or put it off and don't think you have to do something else to get you through school. Even staying at target is fine. At least you know that they'll work around your schedule (and you'll have a good place to do an internship and maybe even go further - or not).
post #112 of 191
OK, for like the third and last fucking time ONCE YOU ARE MARRIED YOU ARE IN THE BEST POSITION TO GO TO A 4 YEAR UNIVERSITY FOR FREE. FREE. YOU DO NOT NEED A JOB BECAUSE YOUR TUITION WILL BE 100% PAID FOR BY GRANTS, AND IF YOU HAVE TO TAKE ANY LOANS, THEY WILL BE EXTREMELY LOW INTEREST RATE FEDERALLY SUBSIDIZED LOANS THAT YOU WON'T HAVE TO BEGIN PAYING BACK UNTIL YOU FINISH YOUR DEGREE. NOW GET MARRIED AND APPLY TO A DAMN STATE SCHOOL AND GO. FUCK
post #113 of 191
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Originally Posted by username79 View Post
Driving around aimlessly for a year should help his cause.

Financial security is a fine thing, but shit, not the end-all existance, especially for a 20-something. There is plenty of time to catch up and provide a comfortable environment for raising kids and retirement even starting after age 30.

Robbie, realize that there is nothing to lose and no time to waste in getting what you want out of this life. It sounds like you already have a supportive woman who is prioritizing your happiness over money. That puts you way ahead of the curve off the bat, and to hell with people who say youre too young to marry. Go after your big dreams and even if you fall short you'll acquire very valuable knowledge that will help you in other ways, including making a buck, and more importantly you'll grow old with fewer regrets.
post #114 of 191
Thread Starter 
teger- being married to a woman involves more than just the legal aspect , but yes once I am married I fully plan on taking your advice.
post #115 of 191
robbie, have you discussed this with your fiancee? Would she be willing or able to support the both of you financially if you were to go back to school or spend time learning a trade?
post #116 of 191
Step 1: Get the hell out of Nebraska. I agree with Teger re: the school thing.
post #117 of 191
go to school, its the best investment you can make, and if you pick the right one and work your ass off it'll be worth all those loans too.
post #118 of 191
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Originally Posted by delirium View Post
robbie,

i think you're doing fine. the fact that you have these goals for yourself is great , and i'm sure it'll work out if you give enough thought to what it is you really, really, really want to do.

i'm pulling for you.

people here should chill. not everyone has the same background. it's not like he's doing nothing...

He needs some tough fucking love. And he's doing nothing - I was working at Target when I was sixteen.

Unless he gets his shit together, he's gonna waste his life.

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Originally Posted by Lel View Post
Have you just considered taking some time off and traveling?

Could be anywhere really. Europe, Asia, Australia, even a road trip around the U.S. might provide for some insight.

doesn't really sound like he has money or time to travel.

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Originally Posted by robbie View Post
I live on my own, I pay my bills. As a matter of fact I attended this high school. I worked as much as the law allowed me to at the time (I was 14) in order to pay 80% of my tuition. I did similarly when I was in college.

I have never, and will never be on unemployment or welfare. I attend church and have a loving supportive family, I don't believe the government owes me anything aside from the ability to pursue life liberty and happiness.

I am not 'too good' for any job ANY JOB. I am not above education, or work either.

There is no silver spoon in my mouth, and I feel no sense of entitlement.

I am simply struggling, and this forum is a community I feel can offer me some insight.


And FWIW, I inquired about volunteering w/ an adult literacy program. I also hand-wrote a letter to Phil Mooney (historian/archivist for Coca-Cola) inquiring as to the job requirements for a position at the archives of The Coca-Cola Company.

I mean dude... Seriously. Get your shit together and either find a career/trade, or go back to school. The whole archivist at Coke position thing is just silly - it's what crazy retirees do. Go get a marketing or finance or food science degree and work for the real Coca-Cola.
post #119 of 191
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I think money is one of the most important things in the world if not the most important.
I feel very badly for you. And for whatever you might spawn in your lifetime.

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You are a dick.
Yes he is. Of an amazing measure.

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Originally Posted by Pennglock View Post
Financial security is a fine thing, but shit, not the end-all existance, especially for a 20-something ...Robbie, realize that there is nothing to lose and no time to waste in getting what you want out of this life...
Once again another of your infrequent posts homes in on the truth. Thank you.
post #120 of 191
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Originally Posted by Dakota rube View Post
I feel very badly for you. And for whatever you might spawn in your lifetime.
Why? You can't do shit without money. That makes it pretty important, doesn't it? Think of all the day to day things in your life that are possible with money. You probably have a family that you support and a house that you live in. These things are possible because you have some amount of money. Notice I am not specifying a quantity. http://www.styleforum.net/showpost.p...&postcount=104 Is it really that egregious? I'm glad so many of you on this forum devoted to expensive high-end clothing are actually ascetic monks. I'm clearly in the wrong here, so I hereby retract all my previous statements and agree with others in this thread with the following: Robbie, it's really great that you are 23, have no idea what you want to do with your life, and work at Target (a job someone who hasn't even finished high school could do!) Congratulations, this is really quite OK and you are a success! Perhaps you should take a meandering roadtrip across the United States to celebrate! Maybe spend some time to "find yourself!" Don't do anything that you don't absolutely want to do because as twenty year olds we are all entitled to do exactly what we want! Money isn't important. Great advice and support in this thread all around!
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