MetroStyles
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Okay, this one will be a huge downer, but it's interesting and could be helpful to several forum members.
The topic is: the death of your parents.
Both of mine are alive, and I generally never ever think of the topic. I can't really imagine it happening, to be honest. I was watching a play that tackled the subject this weekend - and it kind of hit me like a ton of bricks. Whether or not I wanted to, I was going to have to deal with this intensely emotional event at some time in the future.
I always used to think that I'd hear about my parents dying - I always assumed it would be a phone call or something. Don't know why, it's just the way I thought of it in the times I rarely did. I now realize that it will probably be me sitting next to them on their death bed, present for it. I'm generally not very emotional or open with my parents - it's just the way I ended up. Which I think will make it all the harder as I can't help but imagine sitting there next to them on the hospital bed and just completely losing it. I wonder what kind of things I will regret and what I will wish I did differently. I wonder if it will change the way I live my life going forward even though they aren't even there anymore. I wonder if it will bring me a lot closer to the parent that's still around. As an only child, I might be their only emotional support.
I guess I'm just wondering, for those of you that have experienced the loss of a parent, what has it made you realize about yourself, your relationship with your parents, and about life in general? What kind of things did it make you wish you did differently.
I know the obvious answers are "I wish I spent more time with them" or "I wish I had been nicer to them or more grateful", etc. but hopefully some less intuitive stuff comes out of this as well.
The topic is: the death of your parents.
Both of mine are alive, and I generally never ever think of the topic. I can't really imagine it happening, to be honest. I was watching a play that tackled the subject this weekend - and it kind of hit me like a ton of bricks. Whether or not I wanted to, I was going to have to deal with this intensely emotional event at some time in the future.
I always used to think that I'd hear about my parents dying - I always assumed it would be a phone call or something. Don't know why, it's just the way I thought of it in the times I rarely did. I now realize that it will probably be me sitting next to them on their death bed, present for it. I'm generally not very emotional or open with my parents - it's just the way I ended up. Which I think will make it all the harder as I can't help but imagine sitting there next to them on the hospital bed and just completely losing it. I wonder what kind of things I will regret and what I will wish I did differently. I wonder if it will change the way I live my life going forward even though they aren't even there anymore. I wonder if it will bring me a lot closer to the parent that's still around. As an only child, I might be their only emotional support.
I guess I'm just wondering, for those of you that have experienced the loss of a parent, what has it made you realize about yourself, your relationship with your parents, and about life in general? What kind of things did it make you wish you did differently.
I know the obvious answers are "I wish I spent more time with them" or "I wish I had been nicer to them or more grateful", etc. but hopefully some less intuitive stuff comes out of this as well.