My answer in a story....
A couple of years ago I stumble across an mp3 from a band from CA I never heard before. I loved the song but couldn't find much about them. I continued to listen and search for them, a year later they released a full length on an indie label.
The album wasn't available on iTunes or stores around here. I download the entire album, I listened to it religiously, I made bootlegs to give to friends to tell them how awesome it was.
A few months later, they are finally in town for their first East coast show. It was a tiny dive bar with a tiny turnout. I can say easily half of the crowd were friends I turned on to the band. I stood in front the whole time and saw them getting a kick out of me, singing along to all the songs.
After the show my friends and I go to the merch booth to talk to the band, say thanks for playing, etc..... and the guitar player said he saw me singing along and really appreciated the support in a new city, and asks how I've heard of them. I told him about the 1 mp3, not being able to find the album, downloading it, etc....
He immediately (and loudly) started giving me shit about downloading the album and how it hurts them.... I pointed out that if I wouldn't have downloaded that album:
*It wasn't available anywhere else around here
*I wouldn't be at the show singing along and making them feel welcome
*I wouldn't have been able to turn on others to the band
*The people who I turned onto the band wouldn't have been 5 feet from us during our argument, buying tshirts and hoodies from their merch booth.
*They would have lost most of the ticket sales from that night and would have played to a near empty room.
I said thanks again for playing, also mentioned that I was planning on offering them a place to stay that night but he ruined that by being a dick, wished him good luck and left. As I was leaving I saw the singer of the band yelling at the guitar player for being a douche. I haven't really listened to them since.