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Things to say to a man when he's down and out

post #1 of 30
3/25/09 at 5:18pm
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Any thoughts on some helpful things to say to a man who recently got laid off? I am female, btw. My SO has recently joined the ranks of the unemployed.
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post #2 of 30
3/25/09 at 5:28pm
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Originally Posted by greenleaflettuce View Post
Any thoughts on some helpful things to say to a man who recently got laid off? I am female, btw. My SO has recently joined the ranks of the unemployed.

If it were me, I'd want you to say nothing. A man's identity is tied closely to what he does. This is something he needs to take care of and I'm sure he does not want you to worry over.

Just be supportive. Don't say we can't do X because we need to save money, it will make him feel like a failure. Instead, present sensible alternatives to spending money or going out that aren't too transparent.
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post #3 of 30
3/25/09 at 5:29pm
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If it were me, I'd want you to say nothing. A man's identity is tied closely to what he does. This is something he needs to take care of and I'm sure he does not want you to worry over.

Just be supportive. Don't say we can't do X because we need to save money, it will make him feel like a failure. Instead, present sensible alternatives to spending money or going out that aren't too transparent.

+1
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post #4 of 30
3/25/09 at 5:29pm
bj's might help
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post #5 of 30
3/25/09 at 5:29pm
a hummer always works.
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post #6 of 30
3/25/09 at 5:31pm
Lot's of sex goes with being supportive too.
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post #7 of 30
3/25/09 at 5:39pm
just tell him hes the fucking loser he is.
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post #8 of 30
3/25/09 at 5:40pm
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post #9 of 30
3/25/09 at 5:47pm
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just tell him hes the fucking loser he is.

How is the fuckn' helpful, man? Why aren't you more sensitive, man?

You have more mood swings than your menopausal mom.
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post #10 of 30
3/25/09 at 6:06pm
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How about offering to pay? Bad idea?
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post #11 of 30
3/25/09 at 6:07pm
...drinks on me..
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post #12 of 30
3/25/09 at 6:10pm
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post #13 of 30
3/25/09 at 6:10pm
cuckolding is a good way of letting a guy feel like he's doing something. like holding a camera or being part of the cleanup crew.
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post #14 of 30
3/25/09 at 6:12pm
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How about offering to pay? Bad idea?

Just don't be obvious about it. Keep things dutch at the very least and make sensible alternative for the time being.
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post #15 of 30
3/25/09 at 6:37pm
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Originally Posted by JoeWoah View Post
If it were me, I'd want you to say nothing. A man's identity is tied closely to what he does. This is something he needs to take care of and I'm sure he does not want you to worry over.

Just be supportive. Don't say we can't do X because we need to save money, it will make him feel like a failure. Instead, present sensible alternatives to spending money or going out that aren't too transparent.

+1 to this. Just be there for him.
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