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post #1 of 32
3/22/09 at 11:12pm
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Yes I saw the Speed dating thread by m@T

I am going next Saturday. I don't want just ask typical boring questions of what do you do and such... Any one have any good ideas? I was thinking of asking what their passions are or just to tell me something crazy about them, but it all seems kind of yawn...

I would like to stand out from the crowd of boring, uncreative small talk...

Someone said just to bullshit around about the weather or hair or drinks instead of talking about anything serious. This may be the best approach I heard so far.

Any ideas?
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post #2 of 32
3/22/09 at 11:28pm
What is your favorite thing about yourself. It doesnt come across as too personal, and it lets you weed out (possibly single out) those with low self esteem.
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post #3 of 32
3/23/09 at 12:02am
superman or batman?
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post #4 of 32
3/23/09 at 12:11am
stolen from the PUA community, but it is a good one..."name three things you like about yourself aside from the way you look"...it gets interesting answers, and builds in a compliment for the girl.
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post #5 of 32
3/23/09 at 12:16am
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stolen from the PUA community, but it is a good one..."name three things you like about yourself aside from the way you look"...it gets interesting answers, and builds in a compliment for the girl.

thats actually pretty good.

Never done this but I say with only 5 minutes or whatever you just let it flow. Dont have the same scripted interview questions. Just see if you can catch a vibe bullshitting with them.

As an incebreaker Id go with..."What would you rather have: Cheeto fingers or Dorito breath?"
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post #6 of 32
3/23/09 at 12:16am
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stolen from the PUA community, but it is a good one..."name three things you like about yourself aside from the way you look"...it gets interesting answers, and builds in a compliment for the girl.

So you're admitting that you read that crap? So lame!
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post #7 of 32
3/23/09 at 12:18am
dont wanna derail his thread with this again, but yes, I'm in most of the threads on the topic saying that there are bits n pieces in there that I think most of us can learn and benefit from, myself included. Official mod decree follows: no more on the iPUA topic, cos threads about those guys always turn into flame wars, and he has asked an honest question seeking an honest answer....
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post #8 of 32
3/23/09 at 12:19am
I know girls who go to speed dating exclusively to laugh at the men who attend the events. You've been warned.
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post #9 of 32
3/23/09 at 12:22am
I knew a girl that would go out with guys she met on dating sites exclusively to get free dinners. No, she didn't get one from me. She was my brother's friend. Despicable imo.
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post #10 of 32
3/23/09 at 12:29am
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I know girls who go to speed dating exclusively to laugh at the men who attend the events. You've been warned.
I suspect this is the sort of thing they say to excuse the fact that they are going, and are every bit as hopeful as the dudes that someone decent will show up this week.
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post #11 of 32
3/23/09 at 8:37am
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I suspect this is the sort of thing they say to excuse the fact that they are going, and are every bit as hopeful as the dudes that someone decent will show up this week.

Exactly.
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post #12 of 32
3/23/09 at 8:53am
Speed dating sounds, pretty, well terrifying. They held a speed dating event at my uni, some girls I know went as a joke, there turned out to be a lot of girls and three really awkward looking guys, they realised that it was not funny and actually pretty dreadful, and then they couldn't leave.

I should imagine your experience will be better than this. It seems to me rather than having any game you should just be yourself, I know that's disney crap, except that if they like you and you were just using some preprepared spiel any subsequent date will be pretty awkward, so just be yourself, but maybe try and amp up your confidence, you want to find someone who is interested in you, not someone who was impressed by your one liners. Good luck
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post #13 of 32
3/23/09 at 9:47am
I don't see why it's terrifying in the least; in fact a great opportunity. You have 5 minutes to convince some chicken head to go out with you. This is like any other type of marketing. Establish a niche, differentiate yourself from the competition, etc. Don't feel like you're there because it's your last option (you will fail). You're there to meet a bunch of womens and pick which one you like. Don't put up with any attitude or eye rolling... if you encounter any, dish it right back (while being friendly in some way, i.e. backhanded compliment) Keep your face a live and ready to smile, flirt, keep your eyes going, stay aware of body language,etc...... I never been to one of these events but I figure it has to be pretty easy. Take a platonic girlfriend out to lunch and have a flirty conversation with her the day of the event if you need a little practice.
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post #14 of 32
3/23/09 at 3:04pm
I would do it and just act like an idiot. (what's new?) go in expectin nothing, and you won't leave disappointed. If she asked me something like what do you enjoy doing I'd say something like, I used to be a pro lawn bowler but I blew put my shoulder in the senior citizens championship finals. Things were never the same after the injury. And with that I lost all the money and fame that lawn bowling brings, but I'm okay with that. And then stare blankly at her for minute. Then I laugh and they either laugh as well or think you're fuckin retarded. But it's a good way for me to weed out people who I wouldn't get a long with anyway because I make a lot of stupid jokes like that.
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post #15 of 32
3/23/09 at 3:09pm
went to a lot of speed datings with my bombshell roommate. we always made up a new personality of the most unactractive life story, hobbies and lifestyle. there was a bet who still could get a date, dumb bombshell or the broken nerd. it was always a tie ..
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