Originally Posted by FStyles
And I must admit, I thought there would be a lot more empathy from other buyers on this board.
Why not maintain an environment where SELLERS are held with some kind of expectations?
Why should the fact that he's an individual seller with a life as opposed to Neiman deflect the fact that he needs to follow through? Possibly if it's your buddy you've done transactions with before. But 1st tiem around? hardly.
"oh this board is like a family, we're all great people, rah rah SF."
And from the bottom of my heart, to all the elitists who talk shit about not having much money, bargaining, yadda yada, I love you.
I think your query gets to the nub of the point. I write as a frequent buyer and not as a seller (cannot be bothered so far). This is a buying/selling board on a hobbiest forum - virtually all the sellers are selling as a sideline and often to help out fellow forumites. For example, some members will hit an amazing sale, pick up a couple of extra items, and then sell here at a level that covers postage and maybe a small profit. Jamison (Chorse) is a great example. The few professional sellers (e.g, FIHTies) have webpages and adhere to web merchants practices or better. Hence, inasmuch as this an enthusiasts' site, there tends to be an understanding that we will do not expect the seller to be, for example, Neiman Marcus or Brooks Brothers.
In reviewing the posts, I could find nothing that would have caused me to feel that I had been treated poorly if I were the buyer. If I truly needed the item by a particular date, I would have so indicated and offered to pay for overnight UPS or FedEx. In this case, I fully understand why the seller may have delayed shipping by one day, I also think his response explaining why was appropriate since it put into context that circumstances intervened. Moreover, the amount of time elapsed for him to tell the buyer was not per se unreasonable.
In short, I think the buyer's problem here is one of unreasonable expectations. I do not wish to engage in any of the name calling that has occurred as it is not appropriate, but I do think buyers and sellers need to adjust somewhat expectations for the venue in which they find themselves - this is an amateurs forum for the most part. Finally, inferring attitude frequently leads to unhappiness. As I get older, I prefer to assume that the other person is not showing attitude in the absence of pretty clear evidence - it leads to a longer, happier life.