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post #46 of 145
jerk, asshole, call me what you will. I'd probably be jumping on teh same bandwagon. Fact is, you'd love purchasing something from me.
post #47 of 145
sticky... for new buyers
post #48 of 145
post #49 of 145
If you believe in clean purchases, why did you muddy the waters? You paid, he shipped the next day. Should have ended at that. Instead, you had to start psychologizing the transaction. It's like being in one of those awful relationships where the other person asks you 'what's the matter?' when nothing is and won't shut up about it until something becomes the matter. Then you pestered him some more the next day about a tracking number; his replies were friendly and his reasons legit. Then you snapped and we all saw the two PMs that resulted from that. So the problems are really quite simple: 1) You are high maintenance, OCD, hypersensitive, whatever. Can't leave well enough alone. 2) You treat B&S like ebay when it's anything but. SF is a community of like-minded people who offer each other bargains because we enjoy dealing with one another. It is a pleasant, trusting, accomodating and understanding environment to work in. Sellers deliberately take a cut on their profits for the sake of that ease. Buyers deliberately put up with occasional delays and the interventions of real life because they understand that they're dealing with another person, not just a faceless corporation. Shift your attitude, and everything else falls in line.
post #50 of 145
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Originally Posted by bt61184 View Post
Both sides' PMs can be changed to alter the story. People enjoy good drama as lives are boring on here buying sh*t all day. I am a student too so...

A little tip. Pay for it. Ask for the tracking number or the seller saying he shipped it.

After that, leave it alone for a week. Clothes a few days late never hurt anyone, unless they have an empty closet. Don't bug the seller if he shipped it. go play a round of golf or something to get your mind off of it... it will be on the porch when you return. People have lives and I have had many times to get irritated but take it in stride, part of the experience of not paying for markup at Saks.

Just my 2c

1) PM's emails haven't been changed, but context is the name of this game. In WHAT CONTEXT were the emails sent is what you should be thinking first.

2)Few days late is all good........ if you're expecting few days late. Not knowing if the seller is jerking you off or legit is not.

3)I'd love to " leave it alone for a week. "However, easier said than done when it's hard earned cash. Like I said, I've got no shame in being not-so-wealthy [yet].

OK,

I've been crucified. Congrats in putting shame on my game.

I'm not THAT bad, having completed a few very successful transactions on here already.

I've not been this intrigued by a board for awhile. Sad to see it go so soon.

pls pardon the typos.
post #51 of 145
Thread Starter 
Dude

I know when you are excited, an hour seems like four, but the unreasonable expectations everyone is talking about are:

Me telling you the shirts will be sent first thing in the morning by Priority. You said you have done many ebay transactions, you should know there is no tracking.
The next morning at 1142 an email requesting good news. Then another email at 1206 requesting a tracking number. Then again at 1452.

Man, I was still working. It is not unreasonable to give someone more than 2 hours to respond to an email, especially in the middle of the day.

J
post #52 of 145
+1 to holymadness' comment. I still think you come off as an impatient prick out of this situation. Your sense of ediquette you claim was lost when you blew up at him at your demand of a tracking number when he had a valid reason for the delay (which was quite short of only a day or so). Popping your top off at someone for any minor inconvenience doesn't work. This shit won't fly for very long in life. Your age as a college student doesn't make much excuse, since there are many here who prove examples otherwise.
post #53 of 145
Guy, You were being kind of an ass since you accepted my offer. OK didn't get what you wanted, but YOU accepted it! -I've received tracking numbers for sticks of gum on ebay. And I always do in return. Set buyer's expectations ie. "Look man, I'm quite busy with work and fam, but I'll try my best...... and I don't do tracking numbers" Instead of "Hurry up and pay so I can go send it now"woulda saved youself a lot of hassle in the end. Yeah I followed up........ becaue I don't trust you. OBVIOUSLY, right? Dude I've known you for all of 6 minutes before I purchased. Like I said: clean transactions. I expect, but I deliver in return.
post #54 of 145
Coulda been worse Most ppl on here won't f*ck you like this, unlike Ebay
post #55 of 145
Guys, I'm tired. Not giving up. I promise I will respond to every one of your slanders tomorrow. Jsut to address some of my favorites: 1) You are high maintenance, OCD, hypersensitive, whatever. Can't leave well enough alone. Probably all 3.--doens't make me a bad person. My house is spotless and my finace loves it. 2) You treat B&S like ebay when it's anything but. SF is a community of like-minded people who offer each other bargains because we enjoy dealing with one another. It is a pleasant, trusting, accomodating and understanding environment to work in. Sellers deliberately take a cut on their profits for the sake of that ease. Buyers deliberately put up with occasional delays and the interventions of real life because they understand that they're dealing with another person, not just a faceless corporation. Your age as a college student doesn't make much excuse, since there are many here who prove examples otherwise. Never did make an excuse, bruddah. I felt I was being treated improperly. It's like being in one of those awful relationships where the other person asks you 'what's the matter?' when nothing is and won't shut up about it until something becomes the matter. Then you pestered him some more the next day about a tracking number; his replies were friendly and his reasons legit. hahahahahahahahahaha, thats classic! Reminds me of an ex.
post #56 of 145
Close this thread and get to sleep everyone... this community is like the couple who has to resolve everything before falling asleep. Sometimes, you simply fight too much over nothing when you are tired. I am the only one who can stay up as I have finals on Monday Please stop the personal attacks on this guy... that is not called for as you know nothing about him. All is forgiven. Just don't do it again.
post #57 of 145
FS: Ermenegildo Zegna NWT Gray Striped Dress Shirt. Hidden Button Down Collar. Super Soft Fabric. Very Slim Fitting. G][/IMG] Shoulder 18.5 Chest 20.5 Arm 25.5 Waist 19 3/8 Guys here's your chance to get the shirt that started it all. Relive every moment of this monumental thread by thinking about it every wednesday. I'm not trying to capitalize, just looking to get what I paid for it. I will ship it out immediately (once I receive it)! USPS w/tracking! Thanks, FStyles.
post #58 of 145
A priceless piece of SF history forever
post #59 of 145
Dude, your avatar is amazing.
post #60 of 145
goodnight, and goodluck. See you in the morning, or afternoon for you non PST folks.
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