there are really 3 issues here: 1. retail workers, sales and service people, should never be rude to potential customers because of that person's apperence, or because of what they feel about that person, with the possible exception of a customer being intentionally rude or abusive to them first. and even that last is iffy. 2. a person of honor, a lady or a gentleman, will not be rude to a person because of that persons looks or atributes. I see no reason to be rude to a person because of there color, level of intellegence, wieght, hieght or for any other reason, with the possible exception of that person being intentionally rude or abusive to me first. 3. although I understand that you might not find a fat person very atractive, I see no rational reason to treat them with the type of disrespect that is being shown here. Lets put this in perspective - yes, pretty much any fat person can lose and control weight through excersize and dieting (with very rare exceptions). from personal experience, I can tell you that typically a person who is "naturally fat' or who has a "tendency towards fat" will probrably require significantly more excersize to burn the same ammount of calories, and will probrably store calories a lot faster than a thinner person will - which means that a person with a genetic tendency towards obesity will have to excersize significantly more and eat less than somebody with a genetic tendency towards being thin, and will probrably also have a stronger drive to eat richer foods more often. yes, it is possible for almost any fat person to become thin - the question is is it the investment of time and effort that each individual wants to make? for a large part of my life, I spent easily more than 10 hours a week excersizing, and for some years significantly more, and was hungry all the time, very uptight and tense. now I spend 3-5 hours a week excersizing (and now focusing on the things that I enjoy more and am better at like hitting things and lifting weights) , am pretty much never hungry, have low blood pressure, a very peaceful disposition, very clear blood (from bad cholesteral), and get to spend a lot of time with my family. My 4 grandparents all lived to their 90's, and smoked, so I am guessing that I will make it to a pretty long life. so, you might not want to sleep with me, that is fine, if you are reading this board the chances are I don't want to sleep with you, either. I would be very suprised if anybody had anything to say about my hygine, and, do to my custom wardrobe, I think that I am pretty well put together. there are a number of people on this board (as in the general population) who do things that I find mildly revolting - they are slackers, they spend a lot of time with video games, they wear leather pants, they wear military gear/fireman's gear/pirate pants/cowboy hats while not cowboys- and I wish them luck with all that. I probrably would'nt hang out with them, and I imagine that they wouldn't hang out with me. that would not mean that I would treat them with anything but a minimal amount of respect, as human beings. They might want to consider that, as well.