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Did/would you ask your girlfriend's father for his permission to propose to her?

post #1 of 82
2/10/09 at 10:00am
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Edited by merkur - 7/28/11 at 2:24am
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post #2 of 82
2/10/09 at 10:01am
I did.

He said " ok, sounds great, talk to you later" and hung up.
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post #3 of 82
2/10/09 at 11:34am
I did. He kind of figured it was a foregone conclusion, and once it was made public the family celebrated.
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post #4 of 82
2/10/09 at 11:36am
I did, but it was a long time coming.
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post #5 of 82
2/10/09 at 11:39am
I could see myself doing it. But it depends on the circumstances. IF the family is that old fashioned, sure I'd do it without a problem. If they weren't I may or may not bring it up to either of the parents before hand.
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post #6 of 82
2/10/09 at 11:40am
I would do it, no doubt.
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post #7 of 82
2/10/09 at 11:44am
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He said " ok, sounds great, talk to you later" and hung up.

Haha!

I would and did.

The wife is closer with her mom than her dad (they're divorced), so I asked my gf's mom to have lunch with me and asked her blessing over lunch. She was surprised and very happy, and honored I asked. I asked her dad later, in a parking lot after an awkward dinner at which I kept trying to corner him without the gf around. It was awkward; he said OK; I think he was surprised I bothered.

Someone will probably come along and say that it's an outdated practice, which it is, but so is marriage in many ways, right?
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post #8 of 82
2/10/09 at 12:04pm
I told my mother in law that she shouldn't see this as gaining a son, but as loosing a daughter
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post #9 of 82
2/10/09 at 12:09pm
no i didn't. no i wouldn't. old fashioned bs IMO
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post #10 of 82
2/10/09 at 12:13pm
my sister's fiance did, and he flew across the Pacific just to tell our dad personally, not that it was a big surprise or anything- he just wanted to do the thing personally. i give him props for that.
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post #11 of 82
2/10/09 at 12:19pm
No.

But if I felt it would have been important to her parents, I would have.
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post #12 of 82
2/10/09 at 1:19pm
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Originally Posted by thekunk07 View Post
no i didn't. no i wouldn't. old fashioned bs IMO

I take it that you don't have any daughters?
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post #13 of 82
2/10/09 at 1:21pm
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Originally Posted by freefinancialadvice View Post
I take it that you don't have any daughters?

Kunk doesn't seem like the kind of guy who'd really care either way.
Anyway, for me, it wouldn't be asking permission really. It would be mostly a symbolic gesture out of respect for her parents. If they said yes, all's good. If they said no, they wouldn't give me their blessing, well it wouldn't stop me from doing it anyway.
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post #14 of 82
2/10/09 at 1:23pm
When you marry a person you ask the person first.
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post #15 of 82
2/10/09 at 1:40pm
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Originally Posted by Fuuma View Post
When you marry a person you ask the person first.

why do you ask the opinion of property? just askt he the owner her father.
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