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post #16 of 24
2/9/09 at 10:51pm
I'd make a simple call, don't dare talk about anything emotional, make it pleasant and quick, assuming that some talking has gone on between you two recently
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post #17 of 24
2/10/09 at 3:43am
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Originally Posted by Gherkins View Post
You split - that's it. Everything else creates problems, hurt or - even worse - some lukewarm reconcilitation.
Ordinarily I would agree with this wholeheartedly.... but if she's out of town and he still cares, it's not the end of the world. But think ahead a few steps... if you stay too close to someone you were serious enough with to have lived with, you will have trouble meeting or getting close to anyone else. Again, her being out of town may make that less of an issue.
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post #18 of 24
2/10/09 at 3:56am
No. Move on.
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post #19 of 24
2/10/09 at 6:04pm
My roommate's ex-girlfriend called me after they broke up. She wanted to know if he was "acting strangely".

That's one way of doing it I suppose.
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post #20 of 24
2/10/09 at 6:08pm
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Call her if you still care about her. If you don't, then don't.

+1 if your just trying to be nice but don't really give a fuck calling will only give her false hope. On the other hand I still call most of my serious exes on or around their B-Day and there is so issue of conflicted motives or mixed signals.
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post #21 of 24
2/13/09 at 5:27pm
if you must call then keep it very brief. be cognizant of the message you are sending and the fact that no matter what you say, she will hang up the phone thinking "maybe he still has feelings for me - otherwise he wouldn't have called at all"
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post #22 of 24
2/13/09 at 6:53pm
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Call her if you still care about her. If you don't, then don't.

Agreed.

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I'd call either way, more communication seems to be better than none at all.

Sorry, there is no way I would agree with that. Move on with your life, she is the past now.
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post #23 of 24
2/13/09 at 7:04pm
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if you must call then keep it very brief. be cognizant of the message you are sending and the fact that no matter what you say, she will hang up the phone thinking "maybe he still has feelings for me - otherwise he wouldn't have called at all"

This.
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post #24 of 24
2/15/09 at 3:48am
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Originally Posted by makushin View Post
Well her birthday is Sunday. Not sure if I should call, or email. Not sure what the lines of communication should be at this point. What's appropriate?

Leave the girl alone and let her get on with her life. You calling her is a selfish attempt to make yourself feel better, like you are the bigger person for remaining friends.

If you want be friends with her down the road, in a year or two - no sweat. But you calling so soon after you break up is just going to fill her with false hope.

You told her to move on, now practice what you preach and do the same.
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