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Where do you find intelligent, cultured women?

post #1 of 68
2/4/09 at 4:57pm
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As Valentine's Day approaches do any of you have suggestions regarding where to find the highest concentration of intelligent, cultured women? The sort of women that are comfortable in their feminity and not afraid of discussions that move beyond popular culture? Do you think more of them are to be found in the upper-middle/upper class?

How about in Atlanta (might be too specific)?

This occurs to out of a drop of frustration combined with an epiphany.

I went to a local bar and was introduced to a girl that was said to be Brazilian. So I spoke to her in Portuguese, than Spanish, and then French. I was getting along well with her friend, so I didn't mind when she turned her back, but it was kind of a waste of talking. On the same evening, I put my hat on another woman and her friend said it was dapper, which led to me having to explain the meaning of the word to the girl wearing the hat, which was a turn off.

Recently I posted on my own blog a comparison of the Hagia Sophia and the Mosque of Cordoba and a female friend had a knee jerk anti-intellectual response. Such a response occured with another female friend when I mentioned what I'd learned about the etmology of the word dessert.

My epiphany is that it is fine if I meet women that don't enjoy an intellectual life, but I don't want to dumb myself down either.
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post #2 of 68
2/4/09 at 5:00pm
lots of $$$$$$$$
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post #3 of 68
2/4/09 at 5:23pm
People who are anti-intellectual are annoying, but people who can never lighten up and talk about regular stuff in a relatively regular way (i.e. relate to others) are more annoying. Not accusing you of that, just an observation. If I had to choose between two identical girls, one who always used perfect grammar and only talked about important issues and historical events etc., and another who sometimes nodded and smiled (or asked what I was talking about) but could make even the dumbest person in the room comfortable talking... I'd choose the latter.
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post #4 of 68
2/4/09 at 5:24pm
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I suppose you mean something like families with money have the time and interests to inculcate their children with good manners and a wide breadth of interests?

Unfortunately, I'd have to agree with you in broad strokes if I caught your meaning, though there are probably women that fall outside of what you are saying.

Step one, then, is to go to the part of town with such women. In my city, the wealthier Buckhead area. But from there? I assume bars will have the same sorts of people. Book stores? Museum donors?
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post #5 of 68
2/4/09 at 5:29pm
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Sorry Puppetmaster, that response was aimed at lee.

I'm glad you clarified your meaning. I'm not that worried about it. People can tell I've had an education, but if I aimed criticism of myself, I'd say I need to establish more rapport, not worry I am making them sleep.

I agree that a woman that can make everyone comfortable is gold. But I've met women like that who are also culturally 'exposed', my cousin's soon to be wife, for example.
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post #6 of 68
2/4/09 at 6:11pm
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Originally Posted by SeaGriffin View Post
As Valentine's Day approaches do any of you have suggestions regarding where to find the highest concentration of intelligent, cultured women? The sort of women that are comfortable in their feminity and not afraid of discussions that move beyond popular culture? Do you think more of them are to be found in the upper-middle/upper class?

How about in Atlanta (might be too specific)?

This occurs to out of a drop of frustration combined with an epiphany.

I went to a local bar and was introduced to a girl that was said to be Brazilian. So I spoke to her in Portuguese, than Spanish, and then French. I was getting along well with her friend, so I didn't mind when she turned her back, but it was kind of a waste of talking. On the same evening, I put my hat on another woman and her friend said it was dapper, which led to me having to explain the meaning of the word to the girl wearing the hat, which was a turn off.

Recently I posted on my own blog a comparison of the Hagia Sophia and the Mosque of Cordoba and a female friend had a knee jerk anti-intellectual response. Such a response occured with another female friend when I mentioned what I'd learned about the etmology of the word dessert.

My epiphany is that it is fine if I meet women that don't enjoy an intellectual life, but I don't want to dumb myself down either.

If you dont want to dumb yourself down and your trying to get with a women for more than just some dating, good luck.
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post #7 of 68
2/4/09 at 6:16pm
a) What's the etymology of the word dessert?

b) Sounds like you need to date a grad student.
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post #8 of 68
2/4/09 at 6:22pm
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Domindart, let me clarify:
It is fine that the world has many women that aren't on my wavelength, but life is too short for me to date them anymore.

Your argument may be the same as what I hear from some of my female friends; that they have to downplay their intellectual achievements in order not to frighten off men?

I know the kind of woman I'm looking for, I'm just asking for suggestions regarding where she is likely to be loitering.
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post #9 of 68
2/4/09 at 6:23pm
Go to cultural events. So for someone in DC alliance francaise has tons of events (for french speakers or learning french), so does Intl Club of DC and then museums. You will meet interesting people at these places.
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post #10 of 68
2/4/09 at 6:28pm
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Go to cultural events. So for someone in DC alliance francaise has tons of events (for french speakers or learning french), so does Intl Club of DC and then museums. You will meet interesting people at these places.

I cannot even begin to imagine how many insufferable blow hards there'd be at something like that. Americans who know some french are so incredibly arrogant (and almost sound terrible speaking it) that it's difficult to be around them for any period of time.
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post #11 of 68
2/4/09 at 6:41pm
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Originally Posted by SeaGriffin View Post
I suppose you mean something like families with money have the time and interests to inculcate their children with good manners and a wide breadth of interests?

Unfortunately, I'd have to agree with you in broad strokes if I caught your meaning, though there are probably women that fall outside of what you are saying.

Step one, then, is to go to the part of town with such women. In my city, the wealthier Buckhead area. But from there? I assume bars will have the same sorts of people. Book stores? Museum donors?

I was with you until you said "inculcate". Use that word again in public and I promise you that you will never ever ever ever get laid.
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post #12 of 68
2/4/09 at 6:45pm
it depends on so many factors.
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post #13 of 68
2/4/09 at 6:46pm
This is almost as sad as the "i hate my job" thread. Do you all hang out with fucktards boys and girls? Note: If you had more than surface culture you'd have other people like that hanging out with you. Seems it's not very central to your life....
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post #14 of 68
2/4/09 at 6:46pm
I'm not sure if the tag for this thread is an actual possibility.
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post #15 of 68
2/4/09 at 6:46pm
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b) Sounds like you need to date a grad student.

I knew quite a few law students and Ph.D. candidates when I was in law school; they're nothing like what the OP described. They might've even laughed at him for having his panties up in a bunch.
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