Asking out someone you don't know.

[BPerm]

Well during boot camp and training they don't designate time for posting on forums...
assholes... haha

[Eason]

Here are my two precious gems of dating advice, they've never failed me:
1. Lure them in with your dashing good looks
2. Seal the deal with your great personality

If my advice doesn't work, well, then there must be something seriously wrong with you. Freak.

[longskate88]

Originally Posted by Seeaann

Heres what you do, sit next to her one day or at least near her. Try to show up before her. If she doesnt sit in her usual spot then call the whole thing off. She obviously noticed you were sitting near her and shes not interested.
Sit near or next to her for the next few class meetings, not paying much attention to her other than the casual hello or nod, eye contact, etc.
Deliberately miss one class meeting.
Show up the following class meeting and ask if you can copy her notes and vow to return the favor if need be. You have now sparked a mutual and uncreepy conversation/ friendly relationship which should grow throughout the semester if you play it cool and not make it seem like your desperate for her.

Actually did this, though not on purpose. I missed class, and knew she always sat up front and must take good notes. Sat next to her the next day, asked for said notes, found out she liked tennis and we lived close by, asked her if she needed a partner. Got her email, then we stared playing tennis. Went on some dates, but found out we had opposite views on a lot of things and stopped doing that.

Also, try too hard to get with this one girl and you'll totally miss the shy girl sitting next to you who'd love to have someone ask her how her day is going.

[mikey34]

My advice:

Sit next to her next time you go to class. If you catch eyes say hi and introduce yourself. make small talk about the class, ie; how you did on the 1st exam, how this class blows, etc etc. ask her if she wants to study together for the next exam, get the digits and work your magic.

[hws]

You can to ask, "You want make sex?" Her réponse should be yes or no only, other answer is bullshit! Do not to waste your time with girl who want play game or difficult to get and be prick tease but will not make sex with you, is most stupid thing!
Good philosophy is, I try say properly English here, "So much pussy, so little time."

[Davidko19]

Originally Posted by hws

You can to ask, "You want make sex?" Her réponse should be yes or no only, other answer is bullshit! Do not to waste your time with girl who want play game or difficult to get and be prick tease but will not make sex with you, is most stupid thing!
Good philosophy is, I try say properly English here, "So much pussy, so little time."

Yes Yes Yes YES YES!!!!! HWS IS BACK http://www.styleforum.net/showpost.p...5&postcount=14

beware ladies.

[hws]

Originally Posted by Davidko19

Yes Yes Yes YES YES!!!!! HWS IS BACK http://www.styleforum.net/showpost.p...5&postcount=14

Thank you for vote!

beware ladies.

[gdc_2008]

Think outside the box. You're shy? Target an easy to "get" girl and develop a relationship...then you'll have the confidence of having a girlfriend and this other girl will find you more interesting. It is college after all...

[melwoesblvd]

casual conversation best starter. when at parties i like to say wild shit to girls just to gauge reactions. most of the time they think im crazy which allows me to weed out the boring ones

[ranker]

Originally Posted by Fuuma

"Hi, my name is blablabla" take it from there. Maybe ask her out the next class after that if you too have a good first contact. Oryou can listen to the freaks in there who probably recommend a magic trick and negative comments about her nails.

Fuuma, I love your political posts and find them insightful but holy shit, I hope no one ever listens to you when it comes to dating advice. No offense.

A girl IN COLLEGE will immediately put up her 'bitch shield' the moment a guy says "hi, my name is IHaveNoGame." Why the f#@$ would she want to know your name if she just met you and you haven't even proved that your name is even worth knowing. In addition, by asking such a question, you've eliminated a question she could ask you if she IS interested in you after the conclusion of your small talk.

While there are douches out there that take Mystery's techniques way too literally, the basis of it isn't exactly revolutionary. Part of building interest and rapport is flirting. Flirting involves giving something and taking it away. You could do this physically with your presence or through verbal flirting/compliments/witty backhanded compliments.

Internet bragging is dumb as shit but I'm gonna do it anyway. I can work a room within minutes of entering. Never ever have I used a retarded introduction as "HI MY NAME IS SCHMUCK!" Let them ask you want your name is. If they're not asking, you're not interesting enough, exuding enough confidence and simply not worth anyone's time.





I'm just going to repeat what I suggested to the OP in my earlier post:

OP, don't approach her and just 'ask her out.' This isn't 5th grade where the environment is innocent and familiar enough so that it works. You're just going to come off as a creep if you walk up to her and say "Hi, you wanna go out sometime after class?" Unless you've mastered cold approaches, aka 'game', then your chances for success aren't high. The fact that you've been letting your interest fester for some time has probably rocketed your approach anxiety to a point where your interest could subconsciously come out as being desperate or stalker-ish.

My suggestion once again for someone in your position:
Sit next to her one day in class. Start a conversation with a smile and better yet a witty comment/joke. It matters more HOW you say it rather than WHAT you say. (Girls in general love humor; observational humor tends to work best for cold approaches) If you're one of the poor souls that isn't naturally charismatic, then keep a few topics handy to chit chat back and forth between her. If she's not giving you any eye contact, smiles, (or other indicators of interest), then slow down and continue to build rapport with her before you "ask her out." If she's interested or engaging you in conversation, then take it to the next step and have her join you for some activity, whether it be coffee, a study session, a shopping trip to help you pick out something, an event on campus, or whatever it is that you two seem to share common interest in.

Just come off as fun, positive, and charismatic. Don't appear to be needy nor seeking her approval. When you do ask her to join you, it has to be done in a way so that she feels as if she's missing out on a fun opportunity. It's a thin line between arrogance and confidence but you'll figure it out in time. If she's just not interested, cut your losses. There's plenty of fish in the sea.

[origenesprit]

Originally Posted by why

OR YOU CAN JUST ASK HER OUT AND STOP FUCKING AROUND

"What are you doing Friday night? [Place] down the street just opened and it's supposed to be great." instead of
"Hi, I'd love to go out some time but for now can I have your number so I can randomly call you at my own convenience?"

It is pretty obvious that you're gonna ask her out if you get her number. What if you're not sure of your schedule, or she's not sure of hers? I don't really see the problem of calling once you know your schedule or a good place to go.

Originally Posted by ranker

Fuuma, I love your political posts and find them insightful but holy shit, I hope no oneNever ever have I used a retarded introduction as "HI MY NAME IS SCHMUCK!"

Figures that would be what your name is.

[why]

Originally Posted by origenesprit

It is pretty obvious that you're gonna ask her out if you get her number. What if you're not sure of your schedule, or she's not sure of hers? I don't really see the problem of calling once you know your schedule or a good place to go.

Quit fucking around with phone numbers and 'figuring out schedules' (as if college students have anything else to do on a weekend evening besides get drunk and fuck like rabbits) and just ask her out. Why the fuck would you make it easier for her to say no over the phone instead of to your face? Goddamn virgins shouldn't give advice.

[Kohan]

Originally Posted by why

Goddamn virgins shouldn't give advice.

Bwahahahahaha! YES!!

Forget its practical applications, this thread has now taken on pure entertainment value.

[CDFS]

Originally Posted by ranker

Fuuma, I love your political posts and find them insightful but holy shit, I hope no one ever listens to you when it comes to dating advice. No offense.

A girl IN COLLEGE will immediately put up her 'bitch shield' the moment a guy says "hi, my name is IHaveNoGame." Why the f#@$ would she want to know your name if she just met you and you haven't even proved that your name is even worth knowing. In addition, by asking such a question, you've eliminated a question she could ask you if she IS interested in you after the conclusion of your small talk.

While there are douches out there that take Mystery's techniques way too literally, the basis of it isn't exactly revolutionary. Part of building interest and rapport is flirting. Flirting involves giving something and taking it away. You could do this physically with your presence or through verbal flirting/compliments/witty backhanded compliments.

Internet bragging is dumb as shit but I'm gonna do it anyway. I can work a room within minutes of entering. Never ever have I used a retarded introduction as "HI MY NAME IS SCHMUCK!" Let them ask you want your name is. If they're not asking, you're not interesting enough, exuding enough confidence and simply not worth anyone's time.





I'm just going to repeat what I suggested to the OP in my earlier post:

OP, don't approach her and just 'ask her out.' This isn't 5th grade where the environment is innocent and familiar enough so that it works. You're just going to come off as a creep if you walk up to her and say "Hi, you wanna go out sometime after class?" Unless you've mastered cold approaches, aka 'game', then your chances for success aren't high. The fact that you've been letting your interest fester for some time has probably rocketed your approach anxiety to a point where your interest could subconsciously come out as being desperate or stalker-ish.

My suggestion once again for someone in your position:
Sit next to her one day in class. Start a conversation with a smile and better yet a witty comment/joke. It matters more HOW you say it rather than WHAT you say. (Girls in general love humor; observational humor tends to work best for cold approaches) If you're one of the poor souls that isn't naturally charismatic, then keep a few topics handy to chit chat back and forth between her. If she's not giving you any eye contact, smiles, (or other indicators of interest), then slow down and continue to build rapport with her before you "ask her out." If she's interested or engaging you in conversation, then take it to the next step and have her join you for some activity, whether it be coffee, a study session, a shopping trip to help you pick out something, an event on campus, or whatever it is that you two seem to share common interest in.

Just come off as fun, positive, and charismatic. Don't appear to be needy nor seeking her approval. When you do ask her to join you, it has to be done in a way so that she feels as if she's missing out on a fun opportunity. It's a thin line between arrogance and confidence but you'll figure it out in time. If she's just not interested, cut your losses. There's plenty of fish in the sea.

Recapitulatory

Originally Posted by Eason

Here are my two precious gems of dating advice, they've never failed me:
1. Lure them in with your dashing good looks
2. Seal the deal with your great personality

If my advice doesn't work, well, then there must be something seriously wrong with you. Freak.

[fredfred]

Originally Posted by gqreader239

Gayest approach i have ever heard of. she will think you are gay from the fact that you can identify brands and their seasons. keep the style knowledge on the forum and not in real life.

Yeah, you're right. I've never been with a woman. Never. Ever. I have no idea what I'm talking about. You just stick with your "non-gay" approaches and I'll do just fine.

She's a great looking girl. You can be like every other guy who has talked to her - or you can be a bit different. A strong direct approach can work, but the OP clearly doesn't have the confidence (yet) to pull it off. Telling someone you like their hat and showing some knowledge is easier and it will differentiate you from others. She'll start to look forward to your daily/weekly comments. It builds a bond between the two of you.

But apparently I'm gay. There are quite a few women who'll be surprised to hear that.