i own these. sizing is pretty spot on with your regular size, as you said. i normally wear a 32 in j.crew chinos and got a 32 in these. i've always just thrown these in the wash and then hung dry it, let me know how it turns out if you do a tumble dry.and you're right again, they do start looking like the sanforized version after wear. i've had mine for over 6 months now and the fade is very similar.