Thank you all so much. All of the suggestions have been of great help, and really changed what I was planning to do. (for the better)
I've decided to go as traditional as I everyone suggests, so basically going to go for a slim black shawl/peak lapel (I'll decide when I try on both) tux, black cummerbund, white shirt, real black bow tie, and all the small quality details that you guys have mentioned.
Have a few, final questions-- sorry to annoy you all.