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Down about 18 pounds and 3" in the waist since 3/16. Feels good to be happening as a result of just getting back in the gym and eating better. Calories are still high (for me) on lifting days, getting way more protein than I was most days over the last year, and carbs aren't that low, so I know I'm not just getting supposed results from crash dieting.
Right on. The moment I left, I knew I was forfeiting the right to be that father figure in their lives, even if she was OK with me still seeing them. It's not a sustainable situation.My ex is usually hard to rattle, but I think I got her flustered earlier today when I mentioned that the daughter had told me that the guy hadn't been able to stay for breakfast earlier today. My ex has often been brutally upfront about things, but she didn't seem ready to admit that she's had...
I've covered this in a couple other threads, but I'm a couple months removed from walking away from a three-year relationship that was filled with a lot of baggage. She had two young kids, who I grew to love as my own. We lived together for a little over a year before she bought a house. It was always going to be just her name on the mortgage, but the future for us seemed so dim that I got my own apartment around the time she was closing. She was surprised, even though I'd...
This is something I had thought about, but I don't think I was really being honest with myself until you asked this. I think the answer is definitely, "No." She's great in a lot of ways, but we're different in some fundamental ways, and she's kind of lacking in some areas that are important to me. And the same goes for me with regards to her. I'm really happy that there's no animosity between us. We both have reasons to be bitter about how things eventually fell apart, but...
She is. To her credit, she's never used that for leverage. I think ultimately I would like that, but right now, the situation is a little raw for me to feel at ease. Delusional as it seems now, I don't think I really thought the relationship was totally dead until I found out about this guy. She hasn't done anything wrong, but I do feel hurt/embarrassed, even though I know her decision to see this guy isn't anything personal against me. I can't shake the fear that this...
I honestly just think she's moving on. I look back at our reconciling before we moved into the house and realize it was pretty much our last shot. At 30 with two kids, she's admittedly too old to be playing the together, not together type of games. I realize now that I wasn't stable about the relationship those last few months and I wouldn't have really counted on myself if I were her, either. She's always been the type to move on quickly, if not a new relationship then...
The kids are a huge part of it for me, especially the boy. I didn't know it was possible to love a kid who wasn't yours as much as I do him. The girl is different; kind of bratty, attention-seeking, etc. But she's got her charms and I think she's going to be a really cool kid before it's all said and done. As for the ex, it's really tough. She was absolutely the main reason I finally left. She's not great at verbal affection, and can be a bit more reserved emotionally,...
Probably non-existent right now. Who knows what will become of this new guy, but I've learned the hard way before that you cannot be less appealing to an ex than when she's just started seeing a new guy. And she may not yet be sure about him, but she's pretty sure about me. And honestly, I don't know that I would want her to toss aside the new guy for me right now. This could be a fling or it could be the real thing, but I know that I need her to find that out for herself...
Did SF collectively stop getting dumped or what? Joined this club once more about three months ago ending a complex three-year relationship. She had two young kids when we started dating, and obviously over time, I really grew to care for them as if they were my own. It was never the ideal situation, but it's hit me hard in the last few weeks as I've started addressing my own flaws (impatience, selfishness, pettiness). I'm also having a tougher time dealing with the...
I've been doing weighted carries on my off days, because they're so much less tedious than a ton of slow cardio. I also feel like I'm getting some good work in without really taxing my body too much.
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