If everything fits well, wear the dark gray suit with the white shirt to the evening event. A solid, matte burgundy silk tie would be fine.
Suits 2 and 3 are marginally acceptable for the daytime event (ought to be solid and not very light-colored at this time of year). With a a light blue shirt and almost any medium-colored solid silk tie (but not brown).
A tie with much black in it is improper for a wedding in most countries.