If by "bar fight" you mean taking it to the cleaners once and then wearing it a couple of times then, yes, I was in a bar fight. I do see that the QC varies quite a bit. However, I'm not sure how J. Crew compares with other stores.
Giood luck! I hope you can find the right fit. I traveled to NYC to RMW's only store to try them on before I ordered them from bootsonline.com. It's always difficult if you can't try them on first IMO.