I don't check this thread that often, so sorry for these late words of support, but having been through the exact same situation I feel your pain brother. Best to you and your family, and glad things worked out well.
Having driven both extensively, the Tesla is vastly superior in almost every way. I hated the giant center screen in the Tesla, but there was no denying it was a better car then the Panamera. If they redesign the Tesla interior and increase the range a bit I will buy one.
Code:This is technically true, though if you just ask on AA they will let you hang your bag up front what appears to be 100% of the time. I've never had to ask myself, but I've seen numerous people do it
I travel 30 weeks per year (at least) and I always fold. Never even owned a garment bag.
I use this method, and I make sure not to pack my carry one or suitcase extremely tight. It can be full, but not "sitting on the suitcase to close it" full
The method: http://lifehacker.com/5723295/fold-a-suit-coat-for-packing-the-right-way