Not sure if you guys read anything I said... I'm standing up in a wedding. A very laid back wedding. AND NOT MY WEDDING. I'm being told what to wear here. I'm not trying to dress like Cary Grant, I'd be dressed nicer than the groom. I was told to wear grey pants, black and white patterned shirt with yellow or orange accents. I found some now ties that I like so I think less tie is better here.