My wedding cost just the right amount.   If you spend so much that you begin worrying or fighting, then that is too much. If you spend so little that you begin worrying or fighting, that might be too little. You should be aiming for that "sweet spot" in between those two limits. You should be able to reach that position, and it should not require substantial compromise. If it does, somebody is forgetting the point of a wedding and reception. Additionally, make sure...