You can go with the calf and give it a high polish, like a spit shine. Most people won't be able to tell and it will look fine. Of course, if cost isn't an issue, as others have stated, patent will be best, as it completes the look.
I can understand the pride you take in wearing something you made but matching it to a dinner jacket is just plain ugly. Sorry that's my opinion. Better to go with a suit than something as formal as a tux if you want to wear that specific bow tie.