That's not what I wanted to read today! I've been on a losing streak all summer (Exquisite Trimmings x2, Pediwear, Epaulet, NMWA, eBay), with 2 KW orders in progress. Even a $12 battery for my camera was "sent for further processing".
A light lavender plain oxford is highest on my wishlist, but I doubt you'd have any trouble moving pale pink or blue. I've seen a navy/white gingham oxford around that I think would make an excellent Fall shirt.
What happens if it's not purple? You are getting solid advice here - those ties are frankly awful. Sorry.I could swear one of the affiliates stocked a purple and white shepherd's check, but I can't find it now. Vanda has one pictured in their swatches - you may want to drop them a line. I'm pretty sure I've seen a RLPL purple on grey glen plaid somewhere too. Good luck and congrats.
Is the shirting available for MTM limited to what is on the website, or would there be more swatches to flip through if I went in person? I ordered my first shirt in person recently, but I went in knowing which fabric I wanted from the website, and admittedly didn't look around much.
I'm not sure how unfinished stud holes would hold up, but even this is ignoring the fact that the shirt wouldn't have the texture of a tuxedo shirt.
Several forum sponsors carry affordable versions of these shirts (Kent Wang, Luxire at a glance). I know all too well how much weddings cost, but a shirt is a drop in the bucket.